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Did it feel natural? Easy? Or a little awkward... like new territory?

First one, awkward and quick. SO did it just to get it out of the way.

Now the subsequent ones? Awakened feelings I had not felt in many, many years. I'm talking fireworks here. Massive fireworks. It was then I realized I hadn't died inside after all. Rather, my feelings of desire had just gone dormant for a very long time. One of the best.feelings.EVER!!

I was very concerned about the first kiss because my ex H never wanted to kiss me. I told my now SO that I wasn’t ready for kissing for the first two dates and he was fine with it. He messaged me after date 2 and asked if he was being too much of a gentleman and I said ‘maybe’.

On date 3 he walked in the front door right up to me, leaned in and kissed me right there in the hallway. I was SO nervous for the first 10 seconds and then we basically barely came up for air every time we saw each other for at least the next couple of weeks.

Ummmm...it was magical. I met the guy for a presumed friendly drink, we ended up talking for close to 6 hours and had incredible chemistry, and before he took me home (friends had driven me there and I planned to Uber home but he offered to drive me) I decided I HAD to kiss him. I was waiting for him to come out of the restroom and was looking in the other direction out a big window. I saw him come up behind me in the window’s reflection, turned around and said something drunk and unromantic ( ) like, “I have wanted to do this all night.”, and kissed him. He reciprocated and we spent the next few hours making out like teenagers. Honestly, it was one of the best kisses of my life. He still goes down in my dating history as the person with whom I had the best chemistry. (We dated for about a month, so I base that off the sum of the ‘relationship’, not just one kiss.)

The first kiss after divorce took me a while, but when I did it was so good. In each case after has been so good. However, the latest one, has been nothing but fireworks. It is currently not existing, but I will forever put this recent guy down is the man that awoken my insides but I thought I never could be. Kissing now it’s so much better than it was pre marriage or during marriage. I love it!

Zing!

I met BF at the campground where I was staying for the weekend with my sister. A few weeks after saying hi a few times we hung out and started talking. And talking. Then, it was dark and everyone went back to their campsites. I saw his lights were on and knocked on the door. I was nervous as hell; I told him that I didn't think we were done talking yet. He grabbed me and kissed me and wow!

He told me later that he was so anxious and was pacing his camper before I knocked on the door. Kissing me was all he could think about.

After that, we went to a campfire and kept talking. He walked me home to my sister's camper and we've been together ever since.

I can't even really remember it! lol...

That tells you how earth shattering it was.

It was hot.....it all crashed and burned later....but that first time was definitely hot.

It was sort of awkward for both of us. We had been on several dates and the most we ever did was hug. He was a widower for 4yrs and I had been by myself for 2yrs. Neither of us dated very much because we were both picky.

Anyway after our date he walked me to my apartment door and gave me a quick kiss. It felt good at the time, but after he left I cried because it felt like I was cheating in a way.(I know that sounds stupid now, but it's how I felt then). Come to find out he felt the same way, but he didn't cry.

Don't even ask how our first intimate encounter went. We eventually got more comfortable with each other and now everything is great.

I'll let you know if I have one. Since separating and divorcing from XWW#2 years ago, I haven't been in the position to kiss a woman.

[This message edited by 6M$Man at 5:38 PM, December 18th (Monday)]

My ex wasn't a kisser. He was pretty bad at it, it didn't interest him, therefore.. bad. He was generally selfish in the physical area anyway.

The first kiss after him nearly melted my brain!! He eventually become a lover and the best ever on earth. If that man's skills and desire to please could be cloned then all women on earth would be

Looking back, it was terribly cringeworthy. It was too soon with a really selfish and self absorbed person. Blech!

I was pretty horny and feeling awful in life. I honestly just wanted to see if I could even have sex again.

And, I must say, it was amazing. It started a 10 month long Friend-with-benefits situation for us which we both needed (his wife left him for someone else 6 months prior). He was amazing in bed and taught me so many skills while making me feel wonderful about it. I'm now dating someone else, but I'm thinking it won't last and I'll end up with this friend again.

It was both awkward and magical. "Learning" his kissing style wasn't totally graceful like in the movies but the excitement and attraction was over the top.

Since D I've kissed a few frogs - one in particular was a terrible kisser, I mean TERRBILE. My bestie and I referred to him as "toad kisser", seriously I could not figure out what that guy was doing.

But most of my experiences have been good.

It was pretty amazing. I was sort of back out in the dating world testing it out and started seeing a guy that I liked. He kissed me for the first time as we stood by our cars after the third of fourth date. It was thrilling after 22 years with the same person to be kissed by someone new. And I remember thinking afterwards “huh. I get how my ex could be with someone new and not even think about me during that” because I didn’t think of him at all.

Kisses? I'd rather kiss my dog!

Now let's see if I can remember how that first attempt to "Kiss" went.

At her aunt's wake, I was outside talking to other members of her family.

She arrived with Mr. Wonderful and walked straight to me.

I extended out my hand to shake.

She pushed it away and reached up to kiss me. (I'm 6'1" and she's 5" even.)

As I straighten up, she got lipstick on the collar of the white shirt I was wearing. Great!

Sometimes you've got to let them know, "Got along without you before I met you, gonna get along without now." Not easy, but it has to be done.)

It was amazing! My ex was never a good kisser.

I can't even begin to tell you how surprised I was when it happened. For those of you that don't know my story, we met at a single parents support group. We just clicked. I told him I had no intention of dating. He was respectful of that. So, we started hanging out as friends. I kissed him. I'm so glad that I did!

It was part of a Tinder cougar hookup, LOL.

Definitely felt good!

Totally magical and warm,but my ex didn't want too kiss me never mind sex.she was a terrble kisser and lover in general anyway

It was 2nd date,this past friday... first was one week prior and we shut down the bar after talking for 5 hrs.

Night at the opera, drinks after. Again closed down the bar. I was waiting for an uber home (we were walking distance from her place). I commented on how she seems a little shy, she coyley smiled and glanced down I leaned in for a good night peck and she stepped in close, put her arms around and we kissed passionately, must be 8 years since I was kissed like that. It was broken by the honk of the uber driver.

Truly great.

[This message edited by ivan65 at 2:02 PM, March 20th (Tuesday)]

Awkward.

I had no clue the kiss was coming. The guy just blindsided me.

As others said, things got much better in subsequent ones:

Awakened feelings I had not felt in many, many years. I'm talking fireworks here. Massive fireworks

DITTO!