Seriously don't read this post if you are not prepared because it's NSFL and probably worthy of an X rating. Yes, I will admit freely that I am in fact a very damaged individual, but I will not be apologizing for it either so just get on going if you need to get on going. :)
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Still here? Good good.
Hi-ho silver away! and good luck with the 4.01 and ohhhh wait....there's more. I couldn't recall the name of the technique I was referencing when I posted the other day.....
The build-up and let down part of 4.01 is called edging (should you want to find more on it on some other corner of the internet). Again that would be the concept of trying to continue building up pressure slowly until they almost climax then drop it down a level. Not sure if it's been mentioned here or not but you can tell when he's about to blow by paying attention to the balls (they will lift up tight to the body whenever they are about to blow so whoa nelly if your not ready to finish yet) Edging, by the way, is a concept that works not just for BJ's and it works for men and women. The idea being after several almost climax build ups the final climax is just that much stronger. I'll be touching on this again in my post on the other thread :).
If you combine edging with the tug on the balls/scrotum thing (check with the husband to see if that's ok first of course) I mentioned and you are really going to notice some additional horsepower at liftoff.
Oh and because I'm just saying fuck it at this point.
On performing a Cadbury Finger
I've definitely had my prostate milked a number of times. I have to admit it's not an entirely comfortable sensation initially. That would be having a lady shove her finger in the back door's keyhole while she's performing a blowjob for those of you who are just catching up here. However, the payoff, for me, was worth it as I can attest that it is indeed a very powerful climax. It's the kind of thing I really only enjoy having done to me as a once in a blue moon kind of thing (like maybe a couple times a year?). Mucho lube on that finger is definitely required and if don't forget the pinky is the smallest and least invasive of the fingers (once you get the hang of it).
There's also a bit of the "OMG I can't believe she actually went that far just to get me to cum for her" aspect that's a big part of the appeal (I'll call a cum trigger if you will). If you are hitting the prostate no mental cum trigger is actually necessary anyway because there's no way to stop that train when it gets rolling. However, it's always nice to double down whenever the cards fall that way am I right? It's that same thought that made getting my salad-tossed a pleasurable experience although the actual sensation was only so-so. With mental cum triggers, I think it's best to use them in moderation because we become desensitized to them much quicker than physical sensations.
It's not for everybody and again even for me, it's an exercise in delayed gratification and in being tolerant because of the discomfort before the payoff. This was especially true for me the first time and I almost called for an evac before we finished the mission. Glad I stuck it out for sure though. I also suspect that many other heterosexual men don't like the idea of being penetrated in any way because they associate it with being gay and are just not comfortable enough with themselves to want to try it. If anyone reading is concerned I can assure you that having a woman push the prostate button does not cause the receiver to suddenly switch teams.
There are also others who seem to think poorly of women who are willing to do this. Which is fucking ludicrous if you ask me but it should be on the warning label.
I suspect that there are also those like me that do enjoy it but aren't all that forthcoming about it because of the stigma attached.
Disclaimer:
Honestly, I would never want someone I cared about enough to have sex with to wind up feeling bad about themselves because I pushed them into doing something they were uncomfortable with (unless that's part of the roleplay were involved in but that's another post another day). I say this because I found that some partners I've had in the past seemed almost compelled to attempt these things when we had a serious discussion about bedroom playtime and does and do not. It didn't always go all that well...Just the fact that they didn't have the desire to perform these acts meant that my desire for them to have them done was (mostly) gone. That goes back to seeing the enthusiasm in a partner being a much more important part of the equation for having excellent sex as opposed to any rabbit in the hat technique you could ever dream up.
Thanks for listening.
Now off to write another TMI post.....
