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I think there’s a vast difference between using sex as a manipulation/control tactic and enjoying giving pleasure to a partner. I never view sexual acts as a ‘favor’ to my partner, but I do enjoy doing things because it makes my partner feel good. Let us not conflate a healthy desire for pleasure and a love of making our partner feel good with manipulation. I cannot even BEGIN to tell you how many times I’ve heard men agonize over the difficulty of making women orgasm and the pride they feel when they are able to make that happen. I don’t think that’s a bad thing as long as the reason we are trying to give pleasure if for our partner’s enjoyment AND for our mutual enjoyment.

She loved to give them attention as well

who is "them"?????

I LIKE your descriptive style !!!

His balls I expect. Them guys.

Well my STBXWW finally gave me a good BJ last night. We had been watching a movie and she had been checking my dick everytime there was a sexy lady on screen (as she does) so she could make sure that wasn't turning me on (DIVORCE!!!!!). Anyway, we are parting but still have the odd moment (every time I swear it will be the last). But there is still a huge amount of physical attraction. So anyway, she is fiddling about with it and gets excited and I say she needs to finish what she started and she actually gave me the blow job I had always wanted. Soft and caring, not trying to suck my balls out through my cock. I was about 75% of the way there and then she broke down ans said I would meet someone else and she would never see me again. This is a pattern. I think it's abusive.

Bye.

His balls I expect. Them guys.

Want2BHappyAgain, what he said above..

Thanks for the clarification . When you started talking about the fish out of water part...I was wondering if the nipples got tweaked or what !!!

What a thread!

Lawyerman,

We had been watching a movie and she had been checking my dick everytime there was a sexy lady on screen (as she does) so she could make sure that wasn't turning me on (DIVORCE!!!!!).

Are you saying she checks you during movies to see if any other woman turns you on, and if they do, she will divorce you?

Does she do this anywhere else??

Sorry, I can't tell if you are joking or not.

Ok, so I got my BJ Saturday around noon before we went out for St.Pattys Day. I was sitting on the couch and she comes into the room, kneels on the floor in front of me, and puts her head in my lap. After about 5 minutes of this I mentioned how she was at the perfect height to do the tube snake boogie. As I stood up, unzipped, she started going to town. After 5 minutes I was getting close, but not quite there so I grabbed her head and face f’d her for a good 5-10 minutes -She was gagging for a bit and slobbering all over the place, so it built up, and I blew my top. Was awesome - even better was she didn’t waste a drop! Down the hatch! A definite swallower!

GCN,

That sounds utterly disgusting and abusive.

Abusive? Not at all. She was fine with it and liked it. Sheesh....

It didn’t sound great to me either. Hopefully it was less unpleasant than it reads.

GoingCrazyNow...it sounded kind of HOT to me . I am assuming...when you wrote that you grabbed her and face fucked her...you were NOT FORCING her...correct? I mean...she could have STOPPED it at ANY time...right?

If she didn't...sounds like she LIKED it that way . What was her reaction AFTER if I may ask?

Only in NB can girl in these hallowed purple halls hope to graduate from the mindfuck that brought her here to a facefuck.

May the Good Lord bless this bus and its riders, and may I ride it eternally to glory.

::looks around::

::looks at her cider to be sure it wasn’t spiked::

::puts down cider::

Y’all are rapidly making free online porn feel obsolete.

Ooooh, great thread!!

XWH insulted me one time by saying that he "could stick his dick in a bucket of warm water" in regards to me giving a BJ, so I've had BJ anxiety since then.

However, my post-marriage ONSes (and one 2NS, lol) seemed to enjoy it.

Edited: Sorry, not appropriate for this thread.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 6:09 PM, March 23rd (Friday)]

Silverhopes, I sort of want to answer your question, but I’m struck by how you describe your H. It sounds like he has (perhaps unintentionally, but still!) put some insecurities in your head that are complicating your ability to be honest and open with him. IMO, the best sex happens with people who can be totally unguarded and honest. If your dynamic is such that you feel ‘less than’ or like you’re just seeking his approval because you worry you can’t compare to others, the issue IMO is less about getting him off and more about why you should try so hard. I’m trying to say this very gently and kindly and without assumptions about your H, but the trust required for experimentation (and the focus on comfort and pleasure for you BOTH) needs to be part of the process of figuring this out. In other words, while certain positions or techniques may help in terms of pure physics, to me it seems like a more complex issue.

May the Good Lord bless this bus and its riders, and may I ride it eternally to glory

Shiny and chrome

What a lovely day. What a lovely day.

Shiny and chrome

...so I read this and I get a mental image - FC spray painting her mouth chrome as she leaps off the bus, yelling out “WITNESS ME” in her ‘graduation’ to the facefuck.