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Apologies. Double post.

[This message edited by StillStanding1 at 12:28 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]

They were at my house until the POS left @ 0355. Last night too, until a similar hour.

Wow

Isn't the soon-to-be E5 married?

Sure sounds like an exit affair. Like she was waiting for you to get home to tell you, to avoid "hurting you" while you were deployed.

Hope you enjoy a day off the grid tomorrow. Her circus is not your circus anymore.

Sending strength!

StillStanding, they're in the next state. My intention is to get rolling before daylight, drive by their residence to observe the vehicles present, make a call & arrive within a few minutes of the call if it's all clear. It is unlikely to be a long visit and the travel time from this area is more than two hours.

I have no intention of seeing her, there's nothing I want to hear from her and I don't want to see her face. She can get on base with her dependent ID, but this area has quite a few military facilities and I'm not in the BOQ she would first assume. As far as her getting into the operational area of our base, absolutely not. She has no clearance for that. It is fully access secured.

By mid-week next week, I'm going to take two weeks of my accrued leave to leave to be away from this area altogether. I'll be on the other side of the country. Sandy Eggo sounds good, that's probably where I'm headed permanently when the dust settles & the smoke clears.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 9:17 AM, April 13th (Friday)]

House, that has occurred to me. Had I never learned of this, there might well be D papers being served on me Saturday.

And FTR, POS is married with two kids and an E6 looking for khakis on the next selection... Not happening now or ever. Those were some of the first words from the CMC yesterday.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 12:45 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]

It heartens me that we have such outstanding planning and operational guys in our military.

Midnight, you fine people spend a lot of money on guys like me...

Well I have to say LtCtr that whatever we spend.... You are damn well worth it! 😁

[This message edited by SCARLETT94 at 12:59 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]

I absolutely agree that your level preparation, planning, timing and execution are impeccable! A lot of BS could learn a few things from your tactical and logical approach to getting out of infidelity.

I just don't understand why all infidelity isn't punished this way. Anyone caught cheating should lose their job and have their career ruined! That's fucking justice!

Thinking about the exit A angle, is it possible that she's already filed and you haven't been served because you're not expected back, yet?

Or, is there something like the physical mail thing in place, where the military could take the service and serve you no matter where you are?

D-man I don’t know the answer to that. If that is what she has on her mind, her being served in approximately 24 hrs will effectively pre-empt that.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 1:48 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]

It sure sounds like they are doing some full-on planning and scheming. Living in their little unicorn land dancing through fields of skittles. WTF.

All that's going to come to a furious halt here, momentarily.

It doesn't matter what her plan is. LtCdrLost has planned his actions to the letter.

To the letter indeed.

I am late to this thread but just want to say

LtCdrLost thank you for your service.

I take my hat off to you. Your strength is amazing.

I’m walking into the weight room to smash the iron pile for an hour or so, I’ll check back here later.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 2:02 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]

I'm not sure it's an exit affair. Could be but it also could be just fun and games while LCL is away. After all there's an ocean between them. Who else would be watching. My WW was never going to leave me. It was a sweet ride with a great future. With POS COW, not so much. She told him she wasn't and he told her he didn't want her moving in with him even though he lived alone after his wife left after catching him fucking a different woman. You know there's that "little on the side", "what you don't know won't hurt you", "every bodies doing it" mentality.

You impress me so much with your resolve, LCL. Collect facts, evaluate, make a decision, act upon it. I wish I had that resolve years ago. I was supposed to be a decision maker. Fell short on this one. Proceed and good luck.

No advice you don't need it. Just a thank you for your service and good luck

Worst homecoming ever that doesn’t involve a coffin.

I really loved that woman, I thought we’d go through all of life together. I don’t mean to give the impression that this hasn’t torn out my heart & put it on the ground. When I found out what’s been going on I seriously considered for a day or two requesting to be relieved. Instead I internalized & compartmentalized everything and just became a machine. Now it’s more real than my words can express. I’m feeling like confronting her face to face tonight. Just momentary weakness I’m sure.

I too felt a deep loss, but my anger propelled me through the divorce process. I allowed myself to grieve afterwards.

Separately, be prepared for the love bombing--that's if she hasn't made other plans.

[This message edited by MidnightRun at 3:15 PM, April 12th (Thursday)]