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Your husband is mentally ill. He has tried to kill himself at least 4 times in 2 years. Didn't they give him a diagnosis? Is he in therapy? On meds? This is awful.

He needs to be fixed and you ain't going to fix him. Until he gets a proper diagnosis and takes the steps to get mentally healthy you are going to be living in complete turmoil and drama.

I don't know if the blog post helps at all now that I realize that he is mentally ill. No, I am not a doctor and I am not diagnosing him, but there is obviously something very wrong going on in his brain.

Sadly, this happened to my DD. She knew her husband for 8 years before they married. Great guy. We all loved him. They got married. Got pregnant right away. They were 30. Two more children came rather quickly after that. They were in a stressful situation, with three young children, financially stressed. SIL started to change and became mentally ill. It seems to strike a lot of people in their early to mid 30's. He won't get help and then he assaulted my DD. She was always walking on egg shells, too, because she would never know what would trigger him or set him off. Believe me, this is not the man she knew and married. Mental illness is horrible. My daughter so wanted to be able to have her "happy family", to be able to love him enough, for him to somehow fix himself, but it just isn't possible. Especially when the ill person doesn't seek or follow the help they are given.

I am so sorry MelMo426. You need to protect yourself and your child from this man as much as you can.

How long was your brother in law sick?

This doesn't add up

Maybe you need to digg deeper

This had no problems dating his dead brothers GF

Maybe he was doing it before and his sick brother found out that's why he he tried to kill himself

Anyway run with your child this guy is not stable

You husband inherited the genes from his parents and then was raised by them in this very toxic stew. What are the chances he is ever going to be stable? I’d say slender to none.

Mental illness or not, your husband is toxic to you. He's offering divorce to you, take the offer. Just make sure to get a lawyer and know your rights.

Your H needs to put you and his child first. He could have washed some bottles for his child. He could have taken the baby. Babies come first. That's just how it is.

It sounds like he suffers from the I come first mindset. Banning you from the gathering, all the other actions by the family don't seem right. Weird that him and brothers girl are together so fast. Please use caution here. They are emotionally turbulent people.

I'd go see a lawyer if he's .moving fast. Think of your child first and don't take any nonsense from them. You know what's right.

I read your second post MelMo. Run from this relationship. There's no saving this and your life is going to continue to be a living hell as long as you're around that man. I'm sorry for you that you chose to have a child with him. Learn from these experiences and get out while you still can. Divorce him ASAP. Get free. Don't allow visitation and don't ask for support from him. Cut the cord cleanly and save yourself and the new kid from a life of pain and despair. If you don't want your child going down the same rabbit hole your husband and is family are in, remove yourself from their world. My post here is not an overreaction. If you care about yourself and your kid, get away. You're dealing with uncontained nuclear waste; it will eat you and your child from the inside; run.

I'm so sorry for your situation.

I'm going to simply echo everyone's advice.

I wouldn't dig any more. What you already know is more than enough. It's repulsive. You can't fix him, and you certainly can't fix his family. You don't want your child to be surrounded by these losers.

Get a good lawyer and move on, as fast as you can.