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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:38 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
"Love Hurts" - Everly Brothers (preferred) or Roy Orbison - not Nazareth
"Shot in the Heart"
Roy Orbison's entire catalog 
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
TornInShock ( member #67685) posted at 4:42 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
Destiny's Child - Survivor. Heck ya!
JSS1227 ( member #70150) posted at 5:43 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
White Blank Page - Mumford & Sons
Me:BS Him: WS; early 40s;D-day Dec 2018
2 month EA/PA with MOW
BlueIris ( member #47551) posted at 6:03 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
I’m not sure there’s just one. I hope I don’t repeat any that I were already mentioned, but I definitely need to include these:
Especially good for the anger stage -
“I Hate Myself for Loving You” -Joan Jett
“I Don’t Care Any More” -Phil Collins
“That Day” -Nonpoint (this was one that someone on one of these threads mentioned; I sometimes would go for a drive just to play this and cry or whatever I needed to get some of the pain out)
Others:
“What Kind of Fool” -B Streisand
“I Will Survive” -Gloria Gaynor
“Bulletproof” - La Roux
“Fight Song” -Rachel Platten
“What Hurts the Most” -Rascal Flatts
“I Can’t Make You Love Me” -Bonnie Raitt
“Yesterday” -The Beatles
“Skyscraper” -Demi Lovato
“Roar” -Katy Perry
“F**ckin Perfect” -P!nk
“You Were Mine” -Dixie Chicks (I still can’t listen to this without crying though)
BW | Dday 2-20-2015 + TT for several weeks
"The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off."
WithGrace ( member #52013) posted at 6:32 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
Forty Six & 2 by Tool
I have changed in so many ways as a result of surviving infidelity and this song pulled me through the toughest parts.
"I have passed through fire and deep water, since we parted. I have forgotten much that I thought I knew, and learned again much that I had forgotten." ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings
Kitt (original poster member #65949) posted at 6:57 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
Wow, thank you everyone and I was really looking for some of these songs I just couldn't remember them. Listening to the songs have way different meanings now than they used to.
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 7:35 PM on Saturday, July 13th, 2019
I don't have one.....I was unable to handle the triggers that music brings...still do not listen to music with words, after 11 years....
Just jazz....or classical..
The triggers have changed...from OW and cheating triggers, to D and triggers of songs when we dated...in the 80's..
However, I can listen to Christmas songs again...that was a sad time.
AlwaysOnEdge ( member #42821) posted at 2:35 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2019
Seventh Stranger by Duran Duran
A song I used to enjoy simply for the melody, but now the lyrics are almost unnerving in their accuracy.
DDay 2am 04 Dec 2013
BS (Me)50
WW 51
Together since 93
Married 04
3 Children
R'ing, slowly.
Lemondrop10 ( member #68910) posted at 3:11 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2019
Rearview mirror by Pearl Jam
weddingbelle ( member #63452) posted at 5:27 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2019
Because of you-Kelly Clarkson
northeasternarea ( member #43214) posted at 3:37 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2019
If you could read my mind - Gordon Lightfoot
The only person you can change is yourself.
adriverswife ( member #62769) posted at 7:32 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2019
Every single song from Beyonces "Lemonade" album, especially "Hold Up" and the poem that's the prelude for that song (it's very abstract but explains the crazy I felt everytime there was gaslighting):
Denial
I tried to change
Closed my mouth more
Tried to be soft, prettier
Less... awake
Fasted for 60 days
Wore white
Abstained from mirrors
Abstained from sex
Slowly did not speak another word
And that time my hair I grew past my ankles
I slept on a mat on the floor
I swallowed a sword
I levitated
Into the basement
Confessed my sins
And was baptized in a river
Got on my knees and said, "Amen"
And said, "I mean"
I whipped my own back
And asked for dominion at your feet
I threw myself into a volcano
I drank the blood and drank the wine
I sat alone in begged and bent at the waist for God
I crossed myself in thought
I saw the devil
I grew thickened skin on my feet
I bathed in bleach
And plugged my menses with the pages from the holy book
But still inside me coiled deep was the need to know
Are you cheating?
Are you cheating on me?
aLadypilot ( member #1822) posted at 9:50 AM on Monday, July 15th, 2019
Promises, promises by Naked Eyes
Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13
destroyed1 ( member #56901) posted at 2:16 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2019
Bonnie Raitt - I Can't Make You Love Me
Me - BH 51, 2 kids, married 30 yrs
The things that you want in life are impossible to achieve if your energy is flowing in the opposite direction.
wrangler ( new member #50008) posted at 4:45 AM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2019
I should have known - Foo Fighters
ME: BH late forties
Her: WW early forties
DDay1: 2007
DDay2: 11/29/14
She passed the poly: 4/11/16
Reconciling
SaddestDad ( member #69800) posted at 10:53 AM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2019
Sorry, can't limit to one song lol. Depends on my mood at that specific moment. These are the top constant and consistent contenders:
Not Gonna Break Me by Jamie N Collins
Bang Bang by Kaleo
Arsonists Lullaby by Hozier
Human by Rag n Bone Man
Broken People by Rag n Bone Man
Wanted by Royal Deluxe
Short Change Hero by The Heavy
A Time to Fight by Disturbed
Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.
For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?
BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter
Working hard
ApatheticFury ( member #48872) posted at 11:26 AM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2019
Me: 49xWS: 44 Married 16 years, together 20.3 kids: 18, 13, 10. D-Day: Aug 1, 2015 Divorced: May 3, 2016
Totesmagoats ( new member #70205) posted at 2:49 PM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2019
I was going to post exactly what adriverswife posted! The Lemonade album is amazing. I bought it and watched the videos and it just speaks to my heart.
Me: BS 33
WH: 35 sex/pornography addiction/PA with Next door neighbor
DDay 03.14.2019
ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 3:20 PM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2019
I don't care anymore. - Phil Collins
The ultimate I'm over your lies and bullshit song - hadn't thought of it for years and heard it a month ago somewhere and thought - that's it.
You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.
Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:01 AM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2019
Pray for you by Jaron and the Long Road to Love.
It’s very humorous. His GF cheats. So he prays for her.
To crash her car. My favorite line “I pray your dreams never come true”
Makes me laugh and I play it often.
My favorite song is FreeBird by Lynyrd Skynyrd. I remember listening to it the first day I knew he was Divorcing me for the OW. How sad.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
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