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Something doesn’t add up here. How do we go from, sister is flirting with hubby, to creating a sex payment plan? How messed up is your husband? My bet is that your husband already had an affair before.

AllAlone416: I will at first sympathize with you because one of my WW’s APs was my BIL. How disgusting! Right in my own home!! My WW betrayed me, my BIL betrayed me, and my BIL betrayed my Sister!!! I cannot tell you how angry it makes me feel every time that thought enters my mind!!!! What a horrible thought to carry around in your head the rest of your life! I, too, am missing the “F” and “S” buttons on my keyboard, and I don’t cuss!!!!!

I STRONGLY recommend distance for while so you can clear your head and work through some of these emotions. File for D or got to S right away. Get him out of that house and follow Catwoman’s guide to the 180 (found in the Healing Library). Don’t communicate with him until YOU are ready to do so. You have some major issue dealing to happen here. I remember when I first learned about this disgusting detail -- it felt as if someone put a bullet blender in my chest and scrambled everything up.

Take time for yourself. Take time to clear your head by working through your thoughts and feelings. See an IC. Post here lots. Keep us up to date.

Wow! My heart goes out to you. MalibuBayBreeze is 100% right:

She went to your home on a mission and dressed for the situation. There was no spontaneity here, this was calculated and done with intent.

Your own sister PLANNED to do this to you. Though she is your sister, DUMP HER! The letter I wrote my BIL is not one I would want my children to read!!

OMFG,

How sick & twisted are your WH & Sister.

Along with many other posters I have typed & deleted many cuss words on your behalf...IM SO DAMN MAD ON YOUR BEHALF...

Please don't take any of this blame YOU have done nothing wrong,

When she made her move he should of been ANGRY with her,

telling her NO & then informing you of her offer,

Please get some distance from them both so you can take care of yourself,

I honestly don't have any words for EITHER of there behaviour apart from they are disgusting people

Speak to your parents & some trusted friends as you are going to need lots of help & support going forward

big ((((hugs)))) & lots of strength for you

Scooby

How are you doing today?

I just watched a video by Trent Shelton who does a number of poetic messages via Facebook under the title of "It's Rehab Time". His latest release is called "Stop Breaking Your Heart".

It reminds me of the phrase, "Stop making someone a priority who only considers you an option."

All of the responses are probably hitting deep in your soul right now. The heaviness you've felt has found words through all of us. Knowing how your very own sister could do this to you, and all that this means, let alone your husband. They both considered you options. The will to just keep breathing sometimes falters. But you must. There will be better times ahead; maybe not soon, but you will be free of this once you're free of them to get into a healing space of your own.

You know you really are not “all alone.” There is a huge community here you can lean on.

How are you doing today? Even if you are having trouble getting out of bed and brushing your teeth, we will understand. BTDT.

[This message edited by Odonna at 12:12 PM, August 5th (Monday)]

Im so sorry, OP. Ive seen myself and read so many infidelity, even with parents, and im so forgiving (i just forget the bad people do me) but this is an impossible situation. I would never forgive/forget. The level of betrayal. I just made a fast prayer for you, OP. Stay strong, and whatever you choose dont destroy yourself to please people who dont care for you. Im sp very sorry, OP.

AllAlone,

You are NOT alone. I can think of two other posters whose WH slept with their sister. There is a forum called "I Can Relate" and a thread called "Double Betrayal" that might have their stories and more of BSes whose WSes slept with family members.

This IS NOT your fault. He was not in a position where he couldn't resist. He had no problem saying no to the first request because it didn't benefit him enough. I'd listen to barcher and be wary that there's a lot more he's done with other women than you know about. It is rare for a spouse who's never cheated before to jump to handing your sister an agreed upon menu for her services. He sounds like he's had some experience cheating before and you should demand access to his phone, email, social media accounts, etc. to ensure he doesn't have more OW.

I feel this story was an extracurricular writing assignment.

I feel this story was an extracurricular writing assignment.

It seemed obvious from the beginning. It had a Penthouse Forum feel to the writing style.

BBBD

Something doesn’t add up here. How do we go from, sister is flirting with hubby, to creating a sex payment plan? How messed up is your husband? My bet is that your husband already had an affair before.

I completely agree here. Not only has he betrayed the OP in the ultimate marriage betrayal, but he fucking created a payment plan for the sister - making her a prostitute?

How could you do that? Is he a pimp? Further, how could you do that to family??

There is so much fucked up there.

It seemed obvious from the beginning. It had a Penthouse Forum feel to the writing style.

One day I found an invoice for the lawyer fees. From that point onward they both confessed to what was happening.

To many "One Days" and not a specific DD and why confess to all that instead of TT, as the OP wrote it was an invoice for Lawyer Fees and not an invoice for IOU sex acts. WH could have said something like...Just wanted to help my SIL.

Sadly, this seems to be entertainment for college boys. I read somewhere about a year or so ago about some guy who sent the same story out to several advice columnists. He thought it was hilarious that they responded. This forum is too important for trolls like this.

Of all the people she could have whored herself out to, why your husband?

No rich dudes in her yoga class?

I would cut them both out of my life if it were me.

Nope, nope, nope 👎

This is definitely unforgivable. If my H had an affair with my sister it would be done. Especially with how much I despise her and her life choices.

They aren’t each others biggest fans either. Him because of the way she has always treated me. Her because she’s a bitch and jealous of my happiness.

Lawyer and IC. Talk to your parents. Your sister is basically a prostitute and your husband is a John.

My sister is 12 years younger, taller, more busty, and she is a yoga instructor so her job is to stay fit. I’m pretty attractive by any objective measure, but it’s hard to compete with that.

... She would bend over in front of him or talk about how she hadn’t been properly laid in a long time, stuff like that.

"More busty?!?" Bending over and saying she hasn't been laid?

Methinkest thou art feeding a troll.

This sounds like the opening scene from one of those late-night Cinemax deals.

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