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My wife’s AP wrote her an email yesterday morning at about 1:30 am saying how much he missed her. He hadn’t tried to contact her in a while, but decided to do so out of the blue. As much as I want to ignore him because he is not important in our lives, I decided to contact his new girlfriend because I believe she has the right to know what kind of guy he is. Here is what I messaged her on facebook:

You don’t know me, but (name redacted) had a 2.5 year affair with my wife (name redacted). Yesterday morning at about 1:30 in the morning he sent her an email telling her how much he missed her. If you would like proof of this, please send me your email and I will provide it to you. He also had an affair on his wife (redacted) with my cousin (redacted) a few years ago. I don’t have proof of that, just a warning that he is a cheater, so be careful. As someone that has been betrayed by someone I love, I think you have a right to know what kind of guy he really is. I also have emails that show how psycho he went when my wife broke it off with him, if you’re interested.

That's awesome. Let us know if you become aware of any consequences, or if she responds.

Great job... if he’s secretly emailing your wife, he’s alrwafy betraying his new girlfriend’s trust! Not a good start to a new relationship! What a jerk! Hopefully you’ve saved her some heart ache!

You go, joe!

Good for you. He was clearly reaching out to try toe restart the A.

I like your way of handling things. When I read it, it reminded me of a line from a Steven Seagal movie. He basically said you ignore trouble when it is someone's else's trouble. But when it comes to your door, you go out and you rip it's head off.

If he can't respect your relationship, he needs to have consequences.

Joe, I did something very similar to my wife's AP. They were having an affair for almost the whole time I've been with her. He kept trying to contact her, so I finally went nuclear on him and outed him to everyone I could find.

Man, I'd hate to get that message - at first. Then I'd follow up for proof and be very grateful for the warning. Good work.

I'm really sorry he tried to contact your W.

Joe,

Good job.

Please let other posters know that they need to expose the OM as soon as they have enough evidence.

OM are like cancer if you don't get it all they come back. Perhaps more like drunks who never forget where the liquor stores are.

UPDATE:

I was able to find her work email address online, so I went ahead and emailed her the same message above along with several emails he had sent us from months ago exposing him to be the psycho he is. I haven't heard anything back yet from her.

UPDATE:

I was able to find her work email address online, so I went ahead and emailed her the same message above along with several emails he had sent us from months ago exposing him to be the psycho he is. I haven't heard anything back yet from her.

UPDATE!!!!!

So, my wife's AP emailed me, he didn't appreciate me emailing his girlfriend

Here is what he wrote:

Hey, your messages to (redacted) were very stalkerish. She's a grown woman and can decide who I am for herself. Yes, I told (redacted) I miss her because I do. We were great friends for a long time. I have no desire to be intimate with her again. I'm sorry you have a loveless marriage, but please don't contact (redacted) again. I'll do the same.

Aaaand my reply:

And sending creepy messages sporadically for 8.5 months isn't at all stalkerish? She has a right to know what kind of psycho loser you are. You may call it stalking, I call it using a particular set of skills that I have developed over a number of years. If you contact either of us again, it may cost you your job, since you used your work email to harass (redacted) when you were at your worst. And I will contact every member of your school board and your Superintendent, and ask them to have your mental health evaluated, as well as forward them your messages. Please, try me.

[This message edited by joecardinals at 5:17 AM, August 17th (Saturday)]

Be careful though with his employer related stuff. He could actually sue you for slander if you give any information that could be construed as false.

Good for you!

I tried my best to notify my WW's AP's wives. Email,s etc...If they got them, who knows? I felt better at least attempting.

If you contact either of us again, it may cost you your job, since you used your work email to harass (redacted) when you were at your worst. And I will contact every member of your school board and your Superintendent, and ask them to have your mental health evaluated

Under your circumstances I wouldn't talk about it. I'd do it.

I agree Marz.

Personally, I'd want to bury him in a swamp; literally.

The least you can do is get the guy in as much discomfort as legally possible.

Way to go, Joe. I agree. Bury him.

What a douche. He’s now spinning it to his girlfriend AND worried about having his reputation ruined at work. Stay on the legal side of slander/libel laws. Protect yourself!

Wow!

There should be some kind of punishment for scumbags of that nature.

Oh, wait...

From what I've seen threats, cockblocking never work like you think. It just enables them further. They tend to take it as weakness. So far OM is correct. He's had zero consequences. So you are still having to deal with this.

It's a words over action thing.

Emails he initiated from work (work email is owned by the school board) can't be mistaken for anything other than harassment, etc.

Someone like this has no business in a school board environment.

Living in fear of OM may just get you more of what you've gotten.

If you think you're trying to protect your wifes honor you'd be wrong. She has none.

At this point, my wife's honor is not one of my priorities anymore. She gets the judgement that is due to her. (things change over a course of 8.5 months since DDay Marz) I would say tracking down his new girlfriend and exposing him isn't exactly words over action, or zero consequences. He knows I'm not playing. Unlike this asshat, I'm a man of my word. I've already blown up his new relationship, if he wants to keep going, then I'll destroy his life further. I have no problem doing that, and he knows it. Maybe I'll do it anyway without further provocation, I don't know. I'm thinking of having a few Beers tonight while I watch a game, anything is possible when I have a few in me.

[This message edited by joecardinals at 6:59 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]