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I discovered my husband’s affair about a month ago, have been for individual and couples counseling, but I am struggling with having no one to talk to it about (I have not told a single friend or family member as we would like to work toward reconciliation, and I cannot deal with the fallout).

It would be nice to have someone to talk to outside of this forum, even on the phone, to vent my feelings and frustrations to someone who understands (and to hear others’ situations as well).

I just googled and I am 6 hrs 30 min away. I'm so sorry you are going through this heartache.

You need a support system besides just here. Don't be ashamed to reach out. You have done nothing wrong. ♡

May I suggest you also seek a psychologist to help you. Do you have one?

Unfortunately until you post a certain number of times members can’t Send a personal message to others. I have spoken to someone IRL from this forum and although I am not anywhere near them geographically it has been really nice to talk to someone who understands. I don’t recall the policy on newcomers and if they can send personal messages or not but when you can I suggest reaching out to forum members if you want to connect in the personal message link.

I am in a similar situation and I understand how hard it is.

Sorry you are going through this. Infidelity can be so isolating. I am in the same boat. My DD knows but I don’t talk to her about it. To much to put on her. I have found that unless a person has been through infidelity recently they do not understand. IC helps some but I can only go every few weeks ($)

(((Hugs)))

Hey butter, so sorry you are in this situation. Had a quick read of your threads.

I know it is hard. We all been through it. It feels impossible right now, but it will resolve.

I sent you a pm, not sure if you can respond or not.

There are Beyond Affairs Network (BAN) groups in Chilliwack and Victoria. I'm surprised there isn't any in Vancouver or Richmond or Surry, etc. given the population.

BAN is support groups for betrayeds. I attended 2 different ones in the Edmonton area. There were people at various stages past DDay (from 1 day to a year and more)in attendance and all are betrayed. No one is required to talk. I found it very helpful to attend. I drove 2 hours there and two hours home to attend and it was worth it. It was hard going in the first time but never after.

If you google Beyond Affairs Network you can find out more information and locate a BAN group in the cities I mentioned and how to contact them. Neither is real close to Vancouver and there's the ferry issue with Victoria.

I attended the 2 BAN groups but needed individual counselling, too, which I'm still going to. I, for one don't consider couple counselling very productive or useful for the betrayed so early in the process.

I'm so sorry you are in need of finding SI but it is the best club no one ever wanted to join. This is like a huge support group. BAN is a small, face to face support group. Both very helpful.