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Two-years and five-days post D-day, she signed the paperwork today.

I get the home, property and everything else. She refused my lawyer's advice to abtain another lawyer prior to signing.

It's a miracle.

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 6:04 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

I can only imagine this day is one that is bittersweet; good that you got what was desired in the settlement but also difficult it’s final. Sending a virtual hug and support. How are you feeling?

I feel fine.

So what are your plans now?

Wow.

That's amazing.

Bittersweet but amazing too. Good for you!

Hi 36,

That is good to hear. I expect you must feel a bit dizzy at times and wonder if these recent developments are real!

I am glad for you that they are. You went through a lot to reach this point.

Good for you, 36.

As for what I will do now, I think I will take a a couple of days to head to a mountain lake, do some fishing, sit in my cabin, roast some marshmallows, and enjoy the silence.

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 9:28 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]

That sounds like a great plan!

That sounds like a great plan!

I need to do something for myself. This whole journey has been exhausting.

Roast some marshmallows for me, will you? It's one of my guilty pleasures, and I don't do it very often.

Time to take some time for you and reflect and recharge.

Cat

What paperwork is this:

The divorce or the postnup?

Did your attorney have her sign a voluntary waiver of her right to seek counsel? If not, I think you should run it by your attorney.

What paperwork is this:

The divorce or the postnup?

Not divorce.

Postnup and her signing away her rights to our assets.

Did your attorney have her sign a voluntary waiver of her right to seek counsel? If not, I think you should run it by your attorney.

She did sign a waiver.

I question if I should post on your threads because frankly I’m not going to be Mr. Positive…

Postnups that are one-sided are seldom worth the ink used to sign them, even if drafted by a lawyer.

In an earlier post you mention she was careless with money. MasterCard will still go after you and your assets even if her name is on the card and not on the assets…

If this eventually ends in divorce any half-competent attorney will counter the postnup as one-sided, unfair and signed under duress while she had limited capabilities.

So much of what you share indicate your wife is all for the drama. Honestly, I see her signing simply as more drama. Did she take half the page for her signature? Any tears on the paper? I think the KEY to you retaining a normal marriage is making her realize that divorce is a real and realistic possibility. That if you divorce she can create a normal relationship with her kids. But that marriage is ALSO a realistic possibility the moment she stops the drama and all the hysterics and starts acting sensibly.

BTW – tight lines with the fishing! Fly fisherman here and can’t think of anything more relaxing than casting into a stream.

36

just be careful if this is not a full property settlement agreement because post nups are very tricky. Here where I practice, unless their is some sort of consideration for signing all her rights away and her getting something in return, they can easily be overturned.

Postnups that are one-sided are seldom worth the ink used to sign them, even if drafted by a lawyer.

Exactly, Bigger

BTW – tight lines with the fishing! Fly fisherman here and can’t think of anything more relaxing than casting into a stream.

I never learned to fly fish. I wish I did. There's a beautiful high mountain trout lake in the eastern part of the state. I'm gonna just sit out on the lake and cast from the boat or troll.

I have decided to try not to worry about things I can't control. If we get divorced and the paperwork she signed gets overturned by a judge, que sera sera.

I get the assets, but I also get the bills. Not too worried about her credit card bill, it was something I expected.

well if you took the bills too, that may help. For example if the amount of the bills is near the amount of assets, you are probably fine, but if you got all the assets and that amount is a lot greater than the amount of the bills, you could have a problem. good luck.