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Wayward Side :
Eight Years Out

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plainsong ( member #37826) posted at 9:18 PM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2019

I'M SO GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU! I think about you several times a year, hoping that you've found a way to deal with your health issues and have a good life. I'm so happy that you have.

Yes, you were very open, and sometimes I thought you were sharing too much, but the bigger message I took from that was that you were giving yourself permission to be who you are, and always in the service of healing yourself and your part of your marriage. You shared what you thought as you were thinking it, but never stayed stuck in where you were. You always kept thinking, kept feeling, and kept acting. Truly an inspiration.

I am farther out than you (approaching 9 years), but not as healed. But it feels like this next year will get me over the hump. Sometimes now I feel good!- with myself and in my connection with sisoon. Other times I feel worse, but it is because issues are coming to the surface that I hadn't been able to process before, and can now. I won't be perfect at 10 years, but I hope to accept myself, others and life, and feel grounded in a world where I can do some good and minimize doing harm.

Thanks so much for sharing the good place you are in. Any time I think of you, I smile, because of who you are. By being you, you have brought sunshine into many, many lives.

Me, fWW
Him, fBH (sisoon)
Dday, 12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.
Reconciled and healing.

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Teach8 ( member #36521) posted at 12:11 AM on Friday, October 4th, 2019

Aubrie! This old timer remembers you well. So happy to hear how well you both are doing. Thank you for the update!

Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R

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 Aubrie (original poster member #33886) posted at 12:21 AM on Friday, October 4th, 2019

Hi sisoon! Look at you, a Guide! Congrats! Can't say I'm really surprised. You seem perfect for the job. Thank you for being willing to do it. (Shoutout to all staff members. Whoever they may be now. I need to go find out!)

I did pass on your regards to QS when I saw him at lunch. He said hello and best wishes back to y'all.

Can you believe its been 5 years since the Chicago G2G? Time flies!

I'M SO GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU!

Hello plainsong! Good to see you too!

You know, here's a fun fact about my health. Had this revelation today actually. I have accomplished one of many people's dreams. I take a daily nap, and everyone in my life is just happy for me.

I am very hopeful that you can get over the hump and find complete healing. You've always come across as deliberate and steady in your recovery. Feeling good days is always so refreshing, isn't it? Just keep walking lady. You've got this!

Hi Teach8!

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 4:52 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2019

Hey Aubrie! I was just asking after you not long ago - hoping you were keepin' on keepin' on and were busy enjoying raising your family and all that good stuff.

Not sure if you remember meeting at that one GTG in that one City all those years ago but I admired your bravery and spirit for attending. It was still pretty early days and you were a real life example of a wayward working hard to deal with your shit in such a real way.

Even with the new health struggles you seem to be facing it with that same resilience and strength. Your skills of self-awareness must come in handy with managing your own care.

Glad you popped in - I'm here from time to time as well to try and pay it forward and perhaps give some insight from the far side.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 1:19 AM on Sunday, October 6th, 2019

Good to hear from your Aubrie. You likely don’t recall me but I do remember you. I’m thrilled to hear your m is healed and you are doing so much better. I have sent week auto

Immune diseases, likely one that you have. Not sure if I can be if any assistance there but I am sorry to hear that you have one.

me-BW
him-WH


so far successfully in R

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 1:37 AM on Sunday, October 6th, 2019

Hi, Aubrie.

You know I’m an autoimmune disease girl myself. Any way I can help, let me know.

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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MrsWalloped ( member #62313) posted at 9:23 PM on Monday, October 7th, 2019

Hi. Thank you so much for posting.

Never ever did I imagine I would be able to look myself in the eye in the mirror and like who I saw.

This resonated with me so much because I still haven’t gotten there yet. I’m much better than I was in the first year (its been 4 years for me), but I still have work to do.

Thank you for showing me it’s possible.

Me: WW 47
My BH: Walloped 48
A: 3/15 - 8/15 (2 month EA, turned into 3 month PA)
DDay: 8/3/15
In R

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Endy ( member #71606) posted at 9:24 PM on Monday, October 7th, 2019

This is amazing! I am happy to read this post

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