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Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 12:00 AM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
^^^ What was said^^^
Buffer
ShutterHappy ( member #64318) posted at 12:33 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
Yeah, and it just proves my theory that decent men, regardless of race, don't want a promiscuous woman like her.
The way I see it, some people (regardless of race or gender) like the life of party and sex.
Some people like to have a meaningful relationship and family life (with or without children).
The problem with some cheaters, like your STBXWW is that they want both.
There’s also the cheaters that want a loving family and "the whole falling in love with someone new" at the same time. That’s not your STBXWW.
[This message edited by ShutterHappy at 6:34 AM, May 7th (Thursday)]
Me: BH
Divorced, remarried.
I plan on living forever. So far so good
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 1:16 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
Just to support ShutterHappy, my XWW wanted both. She didn't love him, wasn't going to leave me for him, kept working with me to reach our long term life goal (working together on a major goal is supposed to unite you and link you and strengthen a relationship) and dreamt together. However, she didn't love me either.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
Westway (original poster member #71747) posted at 2:37 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
I agree with everyone. My WW has no intentions of ever marrying a black man, because it would look bad for her socially and she can't have that. In a way, she is the ultimate racist I think, because she will f*ck dozens of black men, but never marry one. If not racist it as least the height of hypocrisy.
And no, she never really loved me completely and wholly the way a wife should, and my greatest regret is that I never caught on to it. Well, the blinders are off now. I will never let that happen again. I refuse to be settled for. If I cannot find a woman who loves me in every way: emotionally, sexually and intellectually -- then I will never marry again.
[This message edited by Westway at 8:38 AM, May 7th (Thursday)]
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
Thanksgiving2016 ( member #63462) posted at 3:41 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
I have begun to think that people who have affairs are incapable of wholly loving anyone. They can’t even comprehend what that means.
Phantasmagoria ( member #49567) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
And no, she never really loved me completely and wholly the way a wife should, and my greatest regret is that I never caught on to it. Well, the blinders are off now. I will never let that happen again. I refuse to be settled for. If I cannot find a woman who loves me in every way: emotionally, sexually and intellectually -- then I will never marry again.
You, me, and many here made that same error. I believe my ex fell in love with how I loved her, and not in love with me. It’s a very tough lesson, but at least now you have the opportunity to find genuine love should you choose to.
You’ve handled this situation admirably, I wish you well.
Westway (original poster member #71747) posted at 10:34 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
Signing off this post everyone. Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I would have been a basketcase without all the help. I'll start a new thread once the divorce is final and update you all on how everything shakes out. Otherwise I'll just be posting on other people's threads. Later...
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 10:51 PM on Thursday, May 7th, 2020
Westway,
Since you are signing off this thread, I would just like to say....
BRAVO!!!! BRAVO!!!!!!
you handled this Hell that your wife threw you into the way every man should!!! You refused to tolerate her b.s., you stood your ground, and did what you knew you needed to do for the benefit of yourself and your daughters!!
This thread should be recommended to evert newcomer when they realize that their wife is a cheating $!ut
I know that it was extremely difficult, but you handled it like a true man!!!
Look forward to reading your future updates in the Divorce forum.
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 4:14 AM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
Strength and Respect ✊.
Buffer
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 2:17 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
Well done sir. You have taken yourself out of infidelity and are moving towards a better life. Good luck going forward.
redwing6 ( member #72593) posted at 3:57 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
I am glad that things have worked out for you Westway. I hope that you continue to offer wisdom & support here for those who come after.
BH 62, WW #2 D'd after 6month EA who scammed her out of our life savings WW #1 56F since remairred twice continues to cheat even today WW #2 Refuses to admit she wrecked our marriage DD adult 33 DSD adult 34 DSS adult 31
KingofNothing ( member #71775) posted at 5:26 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
Much respect, Westway. And a happy future.
Rex Nihilo, the King of Nothing
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“If you’re going through hell, keep going. Just please stop screaming, it’s not good for morale.”
— Winston Churchill
BS 3 DDays/Attempted R, it failed. In a better place
Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 7:37 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
Well done, and hats off to you, you were decisive from the get go and played your cards right, you even managed to keep "Vito Corleone" and the italian mafia at bay during this difficult situation, good luck with the D process and by all means keep posting in other threads, your experience is very valuable to others that come here seeking advice.
WontBeFooledAgai ( member #72671) posted at 9:14 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
Much respect Westway. Please stick around man!
J0ck ( member #47763) posted at 10:11 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020
All the best mate your a good un.
faithfulman ( member #66002) posted at 12:49 AM on Saturday, May 9th, 2020
Westway, you and your story is a textbook example of how to value yourself and remove yourself from the influence of a cheater.
You moved with purpose and determination.
While your cheating soon to be ex-wife might not like you, she definitely has learned you are not to be trifles with and will learn to respect you as you move forward and leave her behind. (Double entendre!)
Your contribution to this forum helps many people.
You have my admiration.
[This message edited by faithfulman at 6:51 PM, May 8th (Friday)]
HonestInterest ( new member #71601) posted at 10:23 AM on Saturday, May 9th, 2020
Its been an amazing read and to follow your path through this shit storm
Good luck and keep us all 
up updated
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 11:19 AM on Saturday, May 9th, 2020
Glad to see you plan on sticking around, WestWay, and providing valuable input to those suffering greatly. Onward and upward.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
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