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When you start seeing the humor you’re on the healing path. IMO

And the baseness of the humour shows how far along the path you are.

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[This message edited by hansvoleman at 3:32 PM, May 4th (Monday)]

I shouldn't joke about my WW's promiscuity should I? I'll probably get kicked off the site.

Oh, I dunno. I'd say she's earned a little gentle ribbing. I don't generally go there, but I will certainly laugh if YOU go there. Cuz, frankly, it's funny.

If I don't laugh about this shit I'll end up in the loony bin.

What do the girls and her family know about her extracurricular activities?

Hey, Brother. I just finished everything and I am riveted. But one thing keeps popping at the back of my head. You said your ExWW is pushing 50 but looks like she is in her 20s. The image of Alyssa Milano keeps popping up. How does your ex measure up to the boner bait of my life

How does your ex measure up to the boner bait of my life

That was a really disgusting thing to say. Despite everything she is the mother of his children. In reading what WW wrote recently it certainly seems like his W is spiraling out of control. Watching this slow train wreck is no laughing matter and certainly has no business being called "boner bait".

Agreed, Notsure. Not funny but is disgusting.

I agree, This is no laughing matter. She is obviously in need of serious help. All WW Can do is hope that she gets it, For the sake of his daughters.….

That was a really disgusting thing to say. Despite everything she is the mother of his children. In reading what WW wrote recently it certainly seems like his W is spiraling out of control.

I would think this applys fo the OP as well.

There are those who enjoy watching someone stomp on the neck of his wife when she is falling down. Go ahead and bring out the popcorn and cheap beer and make dark side jokes.

And what magic bullet do you have with your stash of dirt?. 3, 6 or 12. It is all the same. Everyone knows what went down. The number holds no value, other than a reason to be petty. If you pull that trigger, you may end up shooting yourself in the foot

You divorced her. Its over. She is going to fall. The decent thing to do would be to help her up or leave her the fuck alone.

[This message edited by 66charger at 6:54 AM, May 5th (Tuesday)]

Sorry - not taking "the high road" here. It's called karma - and sometimes it's satisfying to see it happen so soon. Especially when you've been kicked in the teeth. That being said - she's on her own journey - it's not Westway circus anymore.

What do the girls and her family know about her extracurricular activities?

The girls only know about the most recent three men.

The family knows about the three men and the older sister has pressed me to tell her if there were more, but I haven't said anything. Her brothers were furious for a while, but they never had much respect for her anyways. It's an odd family.

Hey, Brother. I just finished everything and I am riveted. But one thing keeps popping at the back of my head. You said your ExWW is pushing 50 but looks like she is in her 20s. The image of Alyssa Milano keeps popping up. How does your ex measure up to the boner bait of my life

She has the same curves but is taller. My STBXWW is a dirty blonde Italian with green eyes. Her family hails from the Sienna region of Italy. She's still a good looking woman, but I can always tell when she is stressed because her acne erupts and she gets breakouts all over her face.

That was a really disgusting thing to say. Despite everything she is the mother of his children. In reading what WW wrote recently it certainly seems like his W is spiraling out of control. Watching this slow train wreck is no laughing matter and certainly has no business being called "boner bait".

Yeah it was sexist but I didn't take that much offense. I mean, my WW is a seriously mixed up woman sexually, because she has lived the last twenty plus years in denial of what she really wants. And you are right, she is spiraling out of control.

You know what I want her to do? I want for us to get a divorce, then I want her to date black men until she finds a good black man who she will be compatible with and who will take care of her. I want her to defy her family and settle down with him and live in peace so she can be a decent mother to our daughters, and start living a life of honesty. I want a man who will be a good stepdad to my girls. That is what I want.

If anyone here thinks I want to watch the woman I loved for so long sink into a life of total depravity they are wrong. My humor is my way of processing this shit.

[This message edited by Westway at 8:53 AM, May 5th (Tuesday)]

You divorced her. Its over. She is going to fall. The decent thing to do would be to help her up or leave her the fuck alone.

Yep, and I'm choosing the latter.

As for helping her? Lets see... I still pay for her car, her car insurance, her medical, her house maintenance, her utilities (until the D decree goes through) and then after D she will be getting a couple years of spousal maintenance and child support from me.

She, on the other hand, only has her house. It is really the only asset she has. Her job working for a wedding planning company fell through with all this Covid crap, so right now she is just drifting. She doesn't have any real marketable skills. She has no real job prospects. So, financially she's screwed unless she can find some kind of job as a receptionist or minimum wage job.

Two things

1) what is the target date for the divorce to complete?

2) 50 pages is the max for any thread. When it gets close you might want to start a new one and post the link to it here. Just a suggestion.

You’ve always done exactly what you’ve thought was right in all of this and you are on your path on to a happier life. I’m glad for you. I see no need to stop trusting your gut at this point.

Take care.

The Target date was May 30, but with the Covid deal shutting down all the courts and government offices who knows? Yeah I'll probably wrap up this thread and move on to the Divorce forum, or maybe the Men's thread.

[This message edited by Westway at 10:03 AM, May 5th (Tuesday)]

You know what I want her to do? I want for us to get a divorce, then I want her to date black men until she finds a good black man who she will be compatible with and who will take care of her. I want her to defy her family and settle down with him and live in peace so she can be a decent mother to our daughters, and start living a life of honesty. I want a man who will be a good stepdad to my girls. That is what I want.

Good on you

The Target date was May 30, but with the Covid deal shutting down all the courts and government offices who knows? Yeah I'll probably wrap up this thread and move on to the Divorce forum, or maybe the Men's thread.

Please keep posting. Your experience, response and recovery are something I point other people to for someone who "did it right".. if that's ever really a fitting phrase for this event.