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ShatteredSakura (original poster member #70885) posted at 2:19 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2019
Wow NotMine, yeah if she was truly apologetic she wouldn't pursue things whether or not you accepted her apology!
Now that I have been on this site for a while, nothing much would surprise me. AP are sick, immoral, selfish, cruel things. They are capable of anything.
Yes, I think WW and her AP are both sick people and for a long time there was a part of me that just wanted to shout "fine, have each other and leave me the hell alone!". His behavior was predatory, and so was yours. Those are the truly awful APs IMO.
But I do think there are two other types of APs at least:
1. Good people who were lied and break up the relationship when they found out they were used, or inform the BS.
2. Morally grey people who weren't predatory but convince themselves the relationship is okay because they believe lies like "I'm miserable and my wife is psychotic and I'll be leaving her soon for you". I don't really have a good opinion of these people either though.
Thumos ( member #69668) posted at 3:25 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2019
In my opinion, this is just more trying to control the narrative so they feel better about themselves. After Dday, my WW at one point tried to tell me how her AP thought I was such a great guy. Yes, really.
Any WS who says this is trying to make themselves feel better about picking an AP who is a moral degenerate over their loyal and hardworking spouse.
Any AP who does this is trying to get some kind of absolution for the guilt they are feeling.
"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."
BH: 50, WW: 49 Wed: Feb.'96 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2: 12.23.19
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 5:10 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2019
Any WS who says this is trying to make themselves feel better about picking an AP who is a moral degenerate over their loyal and hardworking spouse.
Any AP who does this is trying to get some kind of absolution for the guilt they are feeling.
DING DING DING!!! We have a winner!!!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
ShatteredSakura (original poster member #70885) posted at 5:11 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2019
After Dday, my WW at one point tried to tell me how her AP thought I was such a great guy. Yes, really
Oh I believe it. I can't quite remember, but I want to say she said something -or similar- to me too. At the very least one thing I do remember was occasionally saying "oh yeah, AP agrees with you". This was when it was just an EA and not yet PA, when he was "just a friend". So much of the friction in our relationship I feel like was because of her obsession with this guy, and her trying to bring him into our relationship one way or another.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:41 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2019
Lol the MOW felt about as guilty as my STBX while they screwed on my son's little bed.
I hope they cry about it forever poor wittle muffins. They can both fuck off, the AP and the WS.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
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