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It's easier to tell someone what they should do then doing it but most of the time the advice I give helps me move forward

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I wasn't trying to give advice so much as give encouragement. And I agree that posting on other peoples' threads helps me as much.

Westway,

I am sorry that isn't how I meant it at all. I guess i might not have flushed it out.

I like giving my advice to others but some of the people I have talked to don't want to see the truth of the situation, I was simply stating that it is easy for me to give my recommendations but often times very difficult for me to follow the other's people advice.

Look at the struggle I had telling the APwife. I apperciate everything that people tell me and I was not directing it at you but at myself.

I am sorry i wasn't clear.

[This message edited by sorryforeverythi at 3:40 PM, January 27th (Monday)]

I'll be curious to know if you ever get a response from the AP's wife. It was the right thing to do.

Not as of yet, no reply to anything to her.

SFE: I am right there with you, Brother. Wife cheated, wants to go to another man. In my case, he didn’t want her, just the free sex. I don’t think either of our wives have really awakened to the truth of what they think they’re getting is rooted in fantasy.

Regarding the OBS, just wait. She may or may not ever contact you. It took “my OBS” about a month and a half to contact me after I shared with her the proof I had. She told me she was in a hospital during that time due to the mental and emotional stress of her WH confessing to not only the A with my WW, but to another, as well. So, you don’t know what’s happening on her side of the fence, and you may never find out. I suggest you move on as if you KNOW she’s not going to contact you. If she does, then go from there.

You are doing well and I am glad you are moving on so quickly. Keep us posted on what’s happening. Take care!

Thanks Beachwalker,

It hasn't been easy and I slide back and forth throughout the day. I am having more ups than downs and a lot of it comes from being here and the reading I am doing away from her.

I am coming to accept that it's over. It sucks but its over. I doubt I will ever hear from her again. Most say that she will circle back when it blows up in her face. I don't know about that, it doesn't matter. The damage is done and the is no R for me. The wound is too deep and she knew that it was my big button issue.

She decided that he was a better option than us so I can only imagine the mental gymnastics that took but it was all her choice.

Whether it blows up in her face or if she is in the 3% that the dude leaves his wife and they get married and have a wonderful life, I will be long gone and won't care.

But I truly believe I will never hear from her again.

I try though, I am moving to AZ day after tomorrow so that will be good to get out of the place where it happened but it is also the last place we were us, so I am conflicted.

The affair ruined the relationship and as I look back I see times she probably cheated before.

One day at a time i guess, it does get easier but sometimes when the grief comes its a MF'er.

[This message edited by sorryforeverythi at 4:33 PM, January 27th (Monday)]

Most say that she will circle back when it blows up in her face.

No, she won't. If I were you I wouldn't count on it. Number one: her pride will prevent her from doing so; and two: the hard work it would take to work on herself and regain your trust would be too daunting.

When her sugar-daddy dumps her, she will just wander around until she finds another sucker to take her in. She knows she burned the bridge with you.

I agree with Westway- she's a user.