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I'm sure it's no fun for any of us stuck in our wonderful infidelity stories to be forced into isolation with our partners.

In my case, I was already enduring an in-home separation with my WW, on my way to finally having my own place. That will probably be at least two months off.

But now? Kids home 24/7. I work from home already. And the STBXW is either bristling with anger, annoying as hell, or proving once again that she is completely fine with all she's done and with continuing as if all is perfectly normal. While I seethe in whatever private space I can find, hoping no one gets sick.

What a joy.

Anyone else enduring IHS in this uniquely awful time?

[This message edited by Slanted at 9:48 AM, March 15th (Sunday)]

Hi Slanted,

Yes, we too are cooped up together 24/7 for the coming weeks. Both our offices are shut down. We have been existing IHS for quite some time, and I have had to master the 180 and a gray rock approach to survive. This weekend has already been somewhat trying and WH blew up at me yesterday, calling me a "f---ing bitch" for daring to tell him that I didn't need his help to put away groceries Sometime late last night he offered a non-apology which I didn't respond to.

Sigh. It's going to be a long month. Hang in there. I'm sending you strength.

..Hey Slanted,

I think even the happiest of families, best possible marriages, greatest kids ever, and big, comfortable homes to live in ..are going to find it challenging to live together, when we are so used to our own personal freedoms.

I saw pics on the news yesterday of several homeless people, and the cardboard boxes they were living in...

Do the kids have their own room and video hook ups? How many TV's do you have?

How is your supply of 'toilet paper'??

"...just kidding"..

This virus is world changing ...time to pull together for best possible solutions.

May you all find new joy and love in being a family together when you all need it the most you'll ever know.

Prayers sent

smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 10:58 AM, March 15th (Sunday)]

I'm trying my best to be a good partner, despite everything. Terrifying times in some ways. I am near a coastal city with lots and lots of people, too. Numbers are climbing, and I am already inclined toward expecting the worst in general.

So hard to swallow what the kids would call "unfairness." Those are our times, though. Never thought so much about the people in the middle of war zones or whatever who are dealing with personal tragedy or tragedies when they get yet another massive one piled on.

We have one TV. Scary sickness in the house already, too, but it doesn't seem to be this virus.

I do hope that this at least provides some basis for a good co-parenting future as we set aside our differences to keep the zombies at bay.

Strength to all.

..just read some of your earlier posts... Divorce after 50 was one of them.

How is your new business going to survive this virus.? Can it still happen for you?

Are your finances still tied? Will both of you still be going to a workplace..tomorrow?

Wife and I are retired and happy to be still together ...to get each other through the tests of time and age and doctors appointments

We should be basking in the Jamaica sunshine now but decided not to go (recent seizures ) and then the virus hit the world and flying became a problem

Our kids are grown, but 2 hours away, awaiting arrival of first grandson in June..

... if I live that long..

I fear that we have only yet seen the 'tip of the iceberg" in terms of total global effect from this disease, especially financial.

Hoping you both find the patience and wisdom and strength to get through this.

Prayers can't hurt either!!

smy

My new business is actually gonna be fine. That much is kind of incredible. I work completely online. I have a long-term contract now, and it's paying well, and not going to go offline for the foreseeable future, even with this.

But yes, I think you're right. Tip of the iceberg. We're looking at 1929 plus the Spanish Flu, all at once.

Too bad they didn’t have a virus that only inflicts those wandering significant others.

I was thinking about this earlier today - what if I was stuck in IHS and the WS was still going to see and have sex with the AP????? Heaven only knows what he could bring home to our house. I think that one would be a dealbreaker for me - he'd either leave or I'd lock him out cuz I don't plan to die for his pleasure.

my dday was feb 2nd, and since I didnt act in anger and immediately kick her out, we are in near 24/7 isolation. It hasnt been the worst thing in the world since we have three floors, but this certainly was unexpected.

Well, my fWH and I seem to do pretty well under pressure and have been in a better place , so no issues for us.

My mind has been going between extreme prepping / anxiety and also, feeling overwhelmed by all of the hysteria surrounding this pandemic

fWH has been working ( self employed with part of the business being a retail operation that has been busy...for now )

I just got back from a visit with my elderly Mom and seeing some family . I got her as set up as possible for being stuck in her home until further notice .

Got home and got a call from , of all places , my therapy practice's top dog telling me that I was potentially exposed to the virus last week.

My therapist's husband was confirmed as having COV19 and is currently in hospital

She isn't showing any symptoms and the dept of health didn't even think it was necessary to share with her clients , but they did out of an abundance of caution

And, I am sick with a sore throat and have some slight pain in the back of my lungs ( I am asthmatic so I made a point to have all of the meds , including a dose of prednisone on hand to be proactive )

So I am self quarantining and we are just doing what we have to do to get through this

Stay safe my fellow SI ers

Slanted, use the 180 as hard as possible.

Yes this sucks and it affected my move-out date as well. It has been pushed back by a couple more months. Grrrrrrrrrr

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 3:13 PM, March 16th (Monday)]

Slanted, use the 180 as hard as possible.

Unfortunately, not very possible. Have to co-parent with a smile. Very hard. Just trying to have a temporary truce and get along, knowing that we'll finish divorcing as soon as we can.

My WW is not happy I am now working from home for the next few weeks at least.. My daughter loves it of course.. Daddy is home all day and preschool is shut..

My wife however is now limited in her free time..

This means we will spend ALOT more time together... I am hoping this is a good thing... Ask me again in a few weeks though.. Lol

I'd suggest she go self isolate with her AP and stay there.