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I have so rarely been wrong with this. It's so noticeable that it's a female on the other end. The softer tone, the politeness for want of another word. SMH.

Does anyone else relate to this?

Nope. My husband and I both talk to people like people. You can tell from the degree of familiarity how close the person is to us but not the gender.

A friend should be a friend, regardless of gender.

Yes. My FWH does his also. It is something that I brought up to him. He said that wasn’t true. Yet I was right 100% every time.

Aside from his mother and our daughters, he has very little interaction with women. His industry is male dominated. I can’t tell the difference.

I could always tell when mine was talking to a woman, even female relatives. One of the ways I started to be suspicious though was when he mentioned the OW, who should have been another work associate, there was just something off------

Definitely. My STBX had a completely different voice with his buddies, and another with female relatives. (He never talked to ow around me). The voice I got? Unemotional, abrupt robot. (after D-Day, when I went back and looked at the call logs, I was usually interrupting a conversation with one of his ow. That stung. (30 minutes with her, 2 abrupt minutes with me, then he would call her right back for another 40 minutes...)

Dick.

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 9:09 PM, April 24th (Friday)]

WH degrades females. It’s always about their appearance with him. Ick

I always know when he’s talking to a woman. His mother, his sister, work related females, his admin. Before the affair as well. He never spoke to the cow in front of me - that was the run outside and talk in the yard or the car, for a long time. And texted constantly. But he wasn’t cheating, I just wasn’t supportive of his job. Eye roll. His behaviour was bizarre that whole time, I feel so embarassed that I didn’t dig. I was paralyzed with fear.

Now, even befor quarantine, if he’s working from home, I hear every call, he’s just not secretive or hushed about any of it. He’s very loud. But no question I know if it’s a woman.

I bet we all do it in some form or another if I think about it. I speak differently with my female friends, my kids, my mom, men I work with and so one. I had the same experience that during his A's he did not talk to me in front of them at all. That was actually one of the red flags if I think about it. He was not comfortable with that. That was the one person I never heard him chat with.

No, but my H doesn't talk to other women on the phone.

I can tell when he's lying, though.