So for anyone following my Jerry Springer story, Karma Bus backed up, one last update.
We file tomorrow. He read over all terms and agreed.... BUT
STBXWH can not refinance his truck without being off the mortgage. I let him know there was a complication with that but I have a solution. I decided I was going to work in the house to get 10-25 thousand more in equity so I wasn’t going to sell immediately. I also let him know he was responsible for half the mortgage until I sold it. I can afford to go a few months on my own and of course family will help. I have a family friend who said he’d fly up in a month or three to do the things I can’t. Offered the friend 10 an hour, beer n food, n plane tickets.
Offered STBXWH 10 bucks an hour off the loan of his truck and the chance to sell in a month. He told me if I paid the truck payment of 129 he’d do the work!!!! Guilt is a WONDERFUL thing. The divorce decree gives me all the sales and proceeds of the house.
I also confused the CRAP out of him. Was genuinely happy to see him for the first time since the “incident “. Met at the bar to go over final psperwork and told him he was right, we definitely needed to be apart and I was SO HAPPY!!! Hugged him and everything, And it’s a true statement. I had to get over the GUILT of not feeling bad, sad, whatever that it was over. But no tears. Ok I take that back, I teared up at work when I signed into my work computer and all of my stuff had been changed to my maiden name. I admit I cried a little at how awesome that was.. love my work family but not one tear over this
Went to IC, went to this same counselor 20 years ago for same reason, cheating spouse. She n I talked and she told me I look happy! Feeling it! Went to DivorceCare class also. asked if it was normal to feel nothing but relief n GLEE! Got down to the nitty gritty and essentially I grieved the last five years, was just waiting for the other show to drop so I could walk away guilt free knowing I did everything I could. I know I will have some more roller coaster but feeling positive optimistic happy relieved stress free Euphoric!!
BOught a “divorce” dress 6 years ago, wearing it!
Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!