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Stefulson (original poster new member #74577) posted at 6:28 PM on Thursday, June 25th, 2020
Oh this week has been fun. I moved back into the house so I could keep an eye on my daughter. Sp now the WW and I are sharing space again. It's so awkward. I'm basically treating it like I'm living with a ghost but she keeps chatting with me at times like we did when we were together. Talking about work, the day, etc. Then I get Ice again. Then she asks what I want to do this weekend since it's technically my time with the kids. Asks if I want her to stay at her dad's (Code for boyfriend's) or with us. All I could say is, "Sleep wherever you want, doesn't matter to me."
And she got a little miffed at that. Anytime I say I don't care about something she does she gets pissy. I got 'lectured' about cleaning too much. She gave me grief about cooking dinner every night. Mind you this is all stuff I've always done. And I gave my son a pocket watch she had given me back when we got married because keeping it is too painful and she said to him, "Well that hurts a bit" when she saw it in his room.
This is all too bonkers and honestly, quite confusing. She tells me every day that I'll have the divorce papers that day...this has been going on for weeks.
I'd just rather her and I not interact unless we have no choice. This is extremely difficult. Any advice?
Jesusismyanchor ( member #58708) posted at 4:09 AM on Tuesday, June 30th, 2020
I wish I could help you but I do not have any advice as we separated due to the fact that it was an unhealthy environment to be in the same house. I can say I understand the struggle. Not sure you should not jut disengage and not respond understanding he will stay stupid stuff. I know this is easier said than done.
I posted so maybe you could get a bump to get some more advice from others that have been there. I think some will tell you this does not work well for a reason but let's see.
Jeremiah 29:11- For I know the plans I have for you, plans to give you hope and a future
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:35 AM on Tuesday, June 30th, 2020
In house separation is extremely challenging. Especially when the kids are around to see everything. With the schools being closed it’s sad they do get a chance to see everything.
Be polite with her yet set boundaries. Limit discussions to a few topics. Necessary topics. And then don’t engage on everything else.
I don’t know is an answer she may have to accept.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
euphoria ( new member #71933) posted at 10:09 AM on Friday, July 3rd, 2020
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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:43 PM on Friday, July 3rd, 2020
You don't haveto wait for her to file. You can do it. What do you think about doing that?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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