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Ginny ( member #43196) posted at 7:03 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2020
Don’t let her see that she is upsetting you. Read up on “gray rock”!
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DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
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heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 7:29 PM on Thursday, June 18th, 2020
Thanks Ginny. Not showing it on the outside but inside its maddening. Will read up on the gray rock technique.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 1:19 AM on Friday, June 19th, 2020
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, June 19th, 2020
I am that rock each and every day. I'm moving on!!! Climbing my way out of infidelity and realizing that I AM THE PRIZE!! Not that beached something that was my STBXWW.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Stinger ( member #74090) posted at 6:30 PM on Friday, June 19th, 2020
Always nice to excise a toxic person from your life. I hope you enjoy the freedom. It has been great for me.
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 7:54 PM on Friday, June 19th, 2020
Absolutely looking forward to that day!!! The attorney is currently working on the draft agreement to separate, one step closer!!!
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:31 AM on Saturday, June 20th, 2020
Can you sue the AP in your state for alienation of affection?
I certainly would do that!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 1:33 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2020
Can you sue the AP in your state for alienation of affection?
The1stWife, yes I can sue for Alienation of Affection.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:42 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2020
Is it something you plan to do?
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 10:55 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2020
I will do this if he interjects himself into the D process or becomes a nuisance. Thinking about the ROI and don't think I could get anything out of him seeing that WW is bankrolling the A. He could claim bankruptcy and I would get nothing in return here or just the satisfaction in knowing he caused his own financial downfall.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 11:12 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2020
Might be worth it just to show he's a loser. Just an opinion.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 2:10 AM on Sunday, June 21st, 2020
Yep, strength, you don’t have to roll it back into the ocean.
Look after yourself, children and setting up that man cave that will be the envy of all.
As I said before, when she is alone, paying child support, no family, she will look in the mirror and say it wasn’t worth it!
You my friend will be the one thing she isn’t “Happy”. With life, family, and yourself.
One day at a time.
Buffer
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 1:53 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
Might be worth it just to show he's a loser. Just an opinion.
I'm definitely keeping it in mind steadychevy but playing that card very close to the chest right now.
Thanks Buffer, I've got the strength but right now it's hard as hell trying not to explode.
With Father's Day yesterday; WW tried to hug with me and I was repulsed. She could not understand why I was moving away. Do I fucking need to remind her why?!!? Was in a pretty good mood up until that point but inside was very upset and depressed but did not show it.
[This message edited by heartbrokeninNC at 7:53 AM, June 22nd (Monday)]
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 2:34 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
With Father's Day yesterday; WW tried to hug with me and I was repulsed. She could not understand why I was moving away. Do I fucking need to remind her why?!!?
It's amazing isn't it?
My STBXWW actually sent me a text yesterday wishing me a happy father's day and telling me she wished she and our girls could all get together at my place to make me dinner and celebrate. 
What a nut. 
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 3:17 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
STBXWW's head is so far up her ass she can't see through the BS!!! It's amazing that she still thinks she did nothing wrong in her feeble mind. The damages that she has done and continues to do are irreparable.
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
KingofNothing ( member #71775) posted at 3:23 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
With Father's Day yesterday; WW tried to hug with me and I was repulsed. She could not understand why I was moving away. Do I fucking need to remind her why?!!?
The old "let's be friends and civil about this" response. Yeah, I've been there. They never get that maybe they're not quite the person you want to be friends with after adultery has happened. Suddenly, they're not all that special.
I hope you had a decent Father's Day despite that nonsense. You deserve one. I actually had a nice one myself. My son and I smoked ribs and shot the shit in the backyard for hours. My daughter and her boyfriend dropped by with potato salad and strawberry pie (my favorite). At no point did you know who's name come up and we had a fantastic time (she's probably at her b/f at the moment's place with his kids-- I don't really care).
That's the future I hope you have after this. Relax, don't let her bullshit get to you. It's not quite the beginning of the end yet, but it's the end of the beginning.
[This message edited by KingofNothing at 9:25 AM, June 22nd (Monday)]
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heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 4:03 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
Did not really do much for Father's Day. Ordered in some pizza from the Hut and relaxed on the computer playing games.
I can't wait for the day that I can excise the cancer that is WW. Hopefully soon(TM).
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 4:38 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
I'm proud of you, heartbrokeninNC. Now that you are getting out of this shitshow you will see your life get so much better.
Onward, sir!
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 4:50 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
When does she get the separation paperwork?
Does she know that she isn’t on the new lease?
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 5:00 PM on Monday, June 22nd, 2020
Now that you are getting out of this shitshow
I'm starting to see the light at this end of this tunnel while swimming upstream in a hurricane.
When does she get the separation paperwork?
Attorney is working on the paperwork and was requesting further information on Friday.
Does she know that she isn’t on the new lease?
Not yet 
M-20 T-21DDay: 12/24/2019Separated: 8/22/2020D: 10/11/2021
Me: 52
"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown
It's time for another name!
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