I got some goodies....
1) I worked too much, and didn't spend enough quality time with her.
2) He gave her attention, and he "loved her".
3) He did all of these "things" like bike riding with his kids, having barbeques with friends on the weekends, and he had a lot of friends and was social. Apparently I am an introverted homebody that works too much.
3) She felt like she was having a mid-life crisis.
4) I don't spend enough time with our kids. Even if true not sure what this would have to do with wanting to fuck another man.
5) He did cool things like spontaneously playing guitar to a music video on TV???
6) She wanted to see what if the grass was greener.
7) She didn't think I would be that upset because I had never exhibited signs of being jealous during our marriage.
8) I had gained weight. This is a goodie, because while I did add 15-20 lbs, I was still working out 4-5 times per week. The weight gain was due to the fact that I had stopped running running marathons about 10 years ago.
9) He was "honest" because he kept demanding that she leave me because he was morally opposed to having an affair, but was overcome by feelings. That's some serious mental gymnastics.
All of the above are total and complete BS. She simply wanted to do it. She exercised her free will a thousand times between point A and B.