Two days ago, I had a medical appointment scheduled for later that morning. We have one car, and she had to go to work, so I drove her. We made a short stop at Walmart to buy some supplies for her that she needs at work. When we returned to the car and I started it, the car connected to her phone and displayed a text message: "Morning". Days before this, she came home and showed me a text exchange she said had just happened. It was from a guy she had played online with before my first D-Day. She said she hadn't initiated the conversation. The message that came through at Walmart was from the same guy.
She immediately said that it was from days ago and then deleted the message before I could respond. She was panicking in real time as I drove her to work. I just let her spiral while I listened. After she stopped talking, I let silence chip away at her. Then I spoke.
I pointed out that her explanation made no sense. Why would a text deleted days ago show up on the car's display now? I pointed out that people who are not hiding anything don't panic. Then she admitted that the text was from that morning. I also pointed out that the text itself sounded like it was picking up a recently-paused conversation that she was in the middle of. She admitted only that it does look suspicious.
Still, she won't admit that she is engaging with this guy. I have to consider this D-Day number 3. For about a week now, she has been waking up before me and apparently playing games online. My red flag radar was set off by this. Now I find that she is exchanging texts with this guy, panicking about it, and covering it up. I never find anything on her phone that would indicate any of this.
Yesterday, in the wake of all of this, I wanted to check out the features of the Telegram app, which is a secure messaging program. I installed it on my laptop and on my phone and synced my contacts (my contacts are limited to immediate family). Telegram gives you a list of your contacts who also use Telegram. Her name was the first one listed. The only other one was our son. It showed her last use of Telegram was in August 2024, six months before D-Day number 1. And it showed a more recent date, this year, for our son's last use of it. She can't claim to be using it to communicate with him.
She has insisted she wants our marriage to work. I just don't see that happening with all these concerns and incidents rearing their ugly heads, even if she were being honest. I really don't need any of this crap.
