WoundedFox (original poster new member #86931) posted at 1:27 AM on Friday, January 16th, 2026
Its been 11 days since he walked out after I found out he was still cheating on me. I cant help but feel like this is so unfair. I was the best wife I could be and incredibly faithful. He gets to move on and not be lonely and have sex with his affair partner and I cry myself to sleep alone and lonely. I entered this marriage with abandonment issues and now those wounds are ripped wide open. We have to be separated for a year and I cannot date in that time. Its considered adultery in my state even though he has abandoned our marriage and cheated. So he is allowed to have someone but I cant. Not that I want someone but I have a high drive and going a year celibate sounds like adding insult to severe injury. How do you all cope? How do you handle the lonely nights knowing your spouse is out living their best life? I dont know how much longer I can take this. The pain isnt lessening.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:01 AM on Friday, January 16th, 2026
get a cat? But seriously, take the time to focus on you. take a class, go to the gym and exhaust yourself, take up a hobby.
Don’t underestimate what you can do alone - BOBs are helpful. It gets easier and soon you will relish the whole bed for yourself and no snoring and all the glory that singledom can bring. It does take time. I cried at first, but it really does get better with time.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
