feelingverylow (original poster member #85981) posted at 3:54 AM on Monday, February 2nd, 2026
In our talk today my wife indicated that she was really frustrated that I did not have much response to some of her comments in our last talk. She indicated that she realized they were topics we had discussed many times before and she does not know what she would want me to say, but that the lack of response frustrated her and triggered the question of if I even get it. I talked to my therapist in IC last week about this and she indicated sometime just being a witness to her pain is all that I will be able to do. The therapist had a few suggestions for what I might say. I ran a few past my wife in our discussion today and she said she is pretty sure she would get physically violent of I said any of those (she was joking about the violence, but very serious that she thought those sounded condescending).
We both agree that we have talked about the affair enough that we are only revisiting the same topics. I fully disclosed everything so nothing left I can tell her about the affair itself. Wondering what others WS have found effective and what other BS wanted to hear when you get to this stage.
Me - WH (53) BS (52) Married 31 years
LTA 2002 - 2006 DDay 09/07/2025
Trying to reconcile and grateful for every second I have this chance
