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"The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck"

StreetMedic posted 4/12/2017 22:33 PM

"The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life," by Mark Manson

Don't let the title mislead you. While it sounds hopelessly cynical, it's actually quite empowering and level-headed.

Manson makes the argument ... that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

Phoenix1 posted 4/17/2017 23:56 PM

I couldn't help but chuckle when I read your post title. My SO just gave me this book after I recently told him my give-a-f*ck broke a long time ago.

I am actually forward to reading it. Just haven't had the time.

StreetMedic posted 4/18/2017 16:12 PM

It's a good take. I blew through it on audio in only a couple of days, but I eventually bought a hard copy because I decided I wanted to go back, reread it, and maybe make some notes and highlights.

Growingweary posted 4/19/2017 16:24 PM

I enjoyed this book immensely. The first chapter was absolutely hilarious! I about peed my pants laughing so hard!!! (Serously!!!!!) And who doesn’t deserve a good laugh??? BTW, the author also has a website filled with useful articles on dating/relationships, life choices, psychology, & culture.

StreetMedic posted 4/20/2017 20:39 PM

He's got a couple of other books which I've thumbed through, and their premises seem just as misleading (in a good way). They're presented as though they may be just so much more pick-up-artist gimmicky dreck, but they're actually quite the opposite. They advocate avoiding that sort of juvenile trickery in favor of just working on yourself and managing expectations in the "dating world." (Or so I recall, anyway.)

In fact, the subtitle of one of them was "attract women through honesty," which -- for obvious SI.com reasons -- struck an ironic chord with me given what I was healing from, and which got me to pick it up in the first place.

I doubt OM would have been caught within ten feet of anything with the words "attract women through honesty" stamped on it.

[This message edited by StreetMedic at 8:41 PM, April 20th (Thursday)]

redfury posted 4/24/2017 10:13 AM

LOVED this book! It is an especially good reminder for people like me (codependants) who tend to make everyone else's problems their own.

This person/thing/event has nothing to do with my goals? Then I don't give a f*ck.

Trying2Survive1 posted 4/30/2017 00:27 AM

I just started this book after learning about it here...so far I love it! TY!

nervousnelly posted 5/1/2017 13:34 PM

It is a great book. I have gone back to reference it several times.

nowiknow23 posted 5/2/2017 15:41 PM

I have this sitting on a shelf somewhere. Never got around to reading it, but I'll have to find it and add it to my reading pile.

SoulCrushed16 posted 5/6/2017 15:40 PM

I'm so going going to down this on my iPad. I really have no more fucks to give. I'm on E.

Neznayou posted 5/15/2017 22:27 PM

We all have problems. Pick which problem you want to have.

Hawke posted 10/7/2017 20:27 PM

I just got this book. I probably would not have even picked it up had it not been for this post. I'm feeling bruises from a few 2x4s just in the first chapter (imagining what the Disappointment Panda would say if he knocked on my door!). Great recommendation. 5 stars (at least for the first 35 pages)!

Justme77 posted 10/11/2017 12:50 PM

It's on Amazon and you can read the first 10 pages of it for free. It looks interesting.

[This message edited by Justme77 at 12:51 PM, October 11th (Wednesday)]

Simplicity posted 10/12/2017 07:23 AM

Awesome. Found it at my library on hoopla, and I'm totally downloading it for my plane ride! Excited to read it.

JustDone posted 10/13/2017 13:54 PM

If you like the book, he also has a blog:


with some interesting articles.

lostthatlovingfeeling posted 10/28/2017 19:18 PM

Loved this book!

StreetMedic posted 10/29/2017 00:21 AM

Judging by the shelf at my local bookstore, it's still pretty popular around here, too:

H0nest posted 11/1/2017 11:29 AM

was thinking about getting this for my BW birthday, but not sure how it will go over....

imagoodwitch posted 11/2/2017 10:40 AM

Bought this to read on my upcoming vacation!

hopefulkate posted 11/9/2017 12:38 PM

Just read this last week. Fantastic!!! Many 2x4s in there for me. Loved it.

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