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sewardak posted 3/9/2018 08:58 AM

it can happen to anyone. being stalked by her former AP, his wife was forced to admit she had an affair. It sounds super messy too.

MadOldBat posted 3/9/2018 09:00 AM

So sad.

imagoodwitch posted 3/9/2018 09:38 AM

No way!!!!!!

Poor guy :(

Mulberry888 posted 3/9/2018 09:51 AM

Awful isn't it. Shows that anyone can be a BS.

silverhopes posted 3/9/2018 10:05 AM

I read that she had the A while they were separated. So who knows whether or not they agreed to see other people during their separation. It's a grey area even here on this site sometimes.

I hope the AP leaves them alone and they get the support they need.

ETA: Plus, apparently the AP is contesting the stalker claims. So this'll probably spark yet another debate about whether or not a person was making a false claim about harassment.

Times like these, I have to remind myself that we really don't know anything about their situation. Too many ambiguous details.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 10:09 AM, March 9th (Friday)]

2ManyMigraines posted 3/9/2018 12:00 PM

Awww I adore Colin Firth.

SilverLinings55 posted 3/9/2018 14:08 PM

The whole "it was while they were separated" thing could also just be a narrative the Firths created to make the situation and her actions look better than they would otherwise (i.e., if there was no separation), given that they've decided to stay together.

Who knows.

sewardak posted 3/9/2018 14:17 PM

^^what I suspect

Hurtbeyondtime posted 3/9/2018 14:22 PM

Oh sooo sad... and she’s not the looker either. What is wrong with these hos.

Cephastion posted 3/9/2018 18:26 PM

I fail to see how being "separated" constitutes grounds for betraying wedding vows and simple decency and self respect--particularly if the alleged separation is on the terms of the adulterer and not mutual or on the BS's terms.

I wrestle with this question with my own fWW. She says that being separated in her FOO world meant that you can just go screw anyone you feel like. But not only did she commit adultery BEFORE we were "separated" but she lied and told me that she was being faithful while we were apart. Additionally, our "separation" was her abandoning me and my care-needing grandpa without warning and to go be with her AP. The second one also was similar in nature.

How does it work where the offender and liar and betrayer gets to "feel better" about committing adultery when they just screw first, abandon their family, and then live la vida loco while sleeping soundly at night lying about working on "themselves" for a better overall marriage while they're gone? I thought she was only gonna be gone for about a week or two while staying at her mom's, and under such a notion I gave consent for her to take a "break" from being together for awhile. The entire consent (she was already QUITE gone, incidentally) was based on her committing to be faithful the whole time (which shouldn't even HAVE to be said in a marriage, really. Kind of like saying, "ok, now you're not gonna eat anyone or stab them to death with a fork while you're gone, right??" "Uh,huh, yup!, if you say so, I guess I just won't then..." I mean what the HELL is WRONG with people, anyway???

[This message edited by Cephastion at 6:27 PM, March 9th (Friday)]

Cephastion posted 3/9/2018 18:31 PM

Oh, BYE, Honey! I think I'll just "separate" for a lil while so I can go on a personal orgy-fest vacay while we're still man and wife. Oh but YOU don't get to do any such thing, no Sir! Partly because I wouldn't like that, and also because I know YOU'RE not into such skank-nasty lowlife morals and mindset either, so it's a win-win for ME!!

This way I'll sleep better while sleeping around, too! Win-win!!

I guess "till death do us part" just means till they make you WISH one of you were dead instead...

[This message edited by Cephastion at 6:34 PM, March 9th (Friday)]

seekers posted 3/9/2018 18:31 PM

Not Mr Darcy! Ive always enjoyed his movies, the fight scene in Bridget had me close to wetting myself. I wonder if her response is real or more to protect her standing.

Notthevictem posted 3/9/2018 18:34 PM

Well, hope he finds his way here

Cephastion posted 3/9/2018 18:37 PM

I hope NOT, NTV. The ladies here are already wetting themselves just seeing him struggle FICTIONALLY. Imagine what kind of mess this place will be if the likes of that guy ever graces this place!

Every thread he'd start would just fill up with female sympathizers in no time flat. No one would be around to listen to your flatulence or my...well...whatever it is I bring to the SI potluck, I guess.

kaygem posted 3/9/2018 18:48 PM

Ugh. Poor Colin. I have always loved is acting. So sad.

DIFM posted 3/9/2018 19:17 PM

The AP said:

In a year she sent me hundreds of messages of love, photos and videos, even a diary.

Sounds like what many SI BS's say they found just before DDay with their WS. But, since we are all well experienced in the lies of infidelity, who knows truth in this story.

waitedwaytoolong posted 3/9/2018 19:22 PM

The separation story was most likely created by a publicist to soften the story. This happens all the time.

WhoTheBleep posted 3/9/2018 20:34 PM

Imagine what kind of mess this place will be if the likes of that guy ever graces this place!
Every thread he'd start would just fill up with female sympathizers in no time flat.

I need in on this thread. Where is it? Where???? Wheeerrree???? He needs me!

Lawyerman posted 3/9/2018 21:50 PM

Mr Darcy himself gets cheated on. Bloody hell. There is no hope for this race.

Notthevictem posted 3/9/2018 22:17 PM

There is no hope for this race.

You'd be surprised how often people I met say that.