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NotSureAboutIt posted 3/7/2020 15:10 PM

SD- Respectfully, the only relevant question is -did she remember that she was married to you when she f***ed other men?

NotSureAboutIt posted 3/7/2020 15:20 PM

SD- Respectfully, the only relevant question is -did she remember that she was married to you when she f***ed other men?
Either way she is not safe.

Cooley2here posted 3/25/2020 11:04 AM

SD, your body is beginning to break down. It reacts to stress as a deer to a wolf. RUN! but you canít because you have children and a marriage of sorts. Every time your body(mind) is bombarded with a stressor it goes straight to fight or flight. Hormones that could get you up a tree from a bear flood your system. They do the job short term but those same hormones become toxic as hell if you are constantly being hit. Over time your body begins to disintegrate. How do I know? An unbelievable stressful job now has me on medication that stays in my purse in case of need. Whatever you decide do so on the idea that life will become less stressful, not more so. I donít know if your wife can change. Her behavior shows that she never got out of childhood. Chaos in a family takes its toll. Look at your daughter. Be the dad. Be proactive. Good luck.

redwing6 posted 3/26/2020 07:00 AM

SD, how are you holding up?

SaddestDad posted 4/2/2020 14:31 PM

SD, how are you holding up?

Not so great.
Psychiatrist has me on seroquel. I've stopped the xanax and klonopin. Still getting over the benzo-withdrawals.
The start-up I was hired by went under due to coronavirus and lack of liquidity.
A-season is upon us.

I'm once again jobless and cooped up.

oldtruck posted 4/2/2020 17:48 PM

young, jobless, but being hired shows other employers will.

i am old, outdated skills, recovering from injury, job search
will be brutal for me.

Buffer posted 4/5/2020 17:57 PM

Be strong, take care and good luck with the job hunting.
One day at a time.
Buffer

redwing6 posted 4/5/2020 19:46 PM

I too lost my job. Cabinetmaker, worked at a boatyard that services yachts in GA...been out of work 2 weeks. Life goes on as it will not as we'd have it. You'll find other work once this is Wuhan Virus scare is over.

SaddestDad posted 4/6/2020 12:05 PM

Oldtruck

i am old, outdated skills, recovering from injury, job search
will be brutal for me.

I'm truly sorry to hear that. I hope and pray for you that those fears are projected from within and don't become proven fact.

Buffer,

Be strong, take care and good luck with the job hunting.
One day at a time.

I'm trying, man... I can't job-search right now but I'm pushing each day to press through the cabin fever... my IC isn't currently available due to COVID19. Every day is an increased challenge because every day is blurred into one.

I keep hearing about people I know/knew dying from COVID19 of all ages. The numbers in the county I live in are astronomical, especially given the fact that less than a total of 13k people have been tested. Last year, I thought I'd have the absolute worst Passover ever... looks like that's actually going to be this year.

I too lost my job. Cabinetmaker, worked at a boatyard that services yachts in GA...been out of work 2 weeks. Life goes on as it will not as we'd have it. You'll find other work once this is Wuhan Virus scare is over.

I'm sorry to hear that, Redwing.
As a cabinetmaker, is there something you can pivot into for now that's in context of COVID19?
Perhaps servicing FD or PD stations as a volunteer to keep busy or perhaps even get paid for?

At this point, I kind of almost wish I were a gas attendant.

What I REALLY wish is to be able to volunteer as an EMT-B, however, I pet that lapse when we got married (irony haha) and also... I would probably come up positive if I were to get tested for volunteering. Don't want to run that risk, otherwise WW won't be able to work either.

iamweasel posted 4/7/2020 17:06 PM

I'm a day late to this SD and I just finished reading your wife's thread, I have to say you are a far stronger man than anyone I have ever met.
I tend to roll my eyes and sigh when I read what waywards say, do and how they treat/treated their SO, but I can't even begin to wrap my head around what your WW did.
While I cant share my opinion, I do you wish you well in however you go forward, your personal hell is far beyond what mine was.

SaddestDad posted 5/1/2020 20:27 PM

Just crying after singing along with the ending of what has always been one of my favorite broadway shows...

... and remember the words that once were spoken, "to love another person is to know the face of Gd...

Unfortunately, I no longer believe those words have the same meaning to me as they did all of my life. No worries though, Broadway is dead & that show died well before Broadway did.

Newlifeisgreat posted 5/1/2020 20:44 PM

SD,
You ok?

Hang in there
Stay strong
And do what is best for YOU!

survrus posted 5/1/2020 21:16 PM

SD,

It's really surprising how some line spoken in a movie, play, novel etc can just make all of life go quiet, as if it was audible only to you.

In the movie "no country for old men" the wifes attitude towards her husband in the last scene was painful to see. It seemed like a woman who lived with her husband and was comfortable with him but no longer loved him, and he never knew it until that moment.

I felt that way with the affair my WW had before marriage her love for me died I didn't get the message for 25 years.

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