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Buffer posted 10/18/2019 18:28 PM

She unfortunately is banging this POS.
She should be made accountable for her actions.
Ask her to sit with you and calmly talk. If the actions were reversed would she be pissed off.

Get rid or sever contact with those who knew of her actions yet didnít help your relationship. They are toxic towards your family.
Ask your spouse how will we explain her actions to her DD?

Does she want to set up happy family with the POS and how again will she explain this to DD.
Seek IC for her and you.

You donít believe anything she says. Bluff her and ask for full disclosure prior to a polygraph. If she has nothing to hide and has been truthful she will take the test.
You need this so to know if you are looking the move onto a woman who respects boundaries and will love you for you.

Good luck

20yrsagoBS posted 10/18/2019 18:55 PM

Distance yourself from this lowlife.


Detach, ignore, never speak to it.


Itís for your own safety

Wxman3441 posted 10/19/2019 08:10 AM

Is there any point in trying to dig for more information? I wonít be able to see her phone again. I suppose I could set up a recorder. I just want to hear the full truth but I guess I will never get it at this point.

Odonna posted 10/19/2019 08:18 AM

If what you already know about is enough for D then, no, you do not need to find out more. That is just pain-shopping. If you think there might be a chance to R, then you must know everything or staying together is just rug-sweeping, not reconciliation. But in that case she must TELL you everything; you cannot R while you are in P.I. mode.

So if she refuses and is guarding her phone, R really is not an option. I know the desire to still know everything is still there, even if D is the only course, but if you think it through you will realize there is no point and just a lot more pain there.

[This message edited by Odonna at 8:19 AM, October 19th (Saturday)]

Marz posted 10/19/2019 17:23 PM

I wonít be able to see her phone again

The thing is if she's dishonest you'll not be able to R. You can stay together but it'll be on her terms.

Which means there's a high chance you'll get a repeat but it sounds like this one hasn't even ended.

Is that how you want to live your life?

Wxman3441 posted 10/19/2019 19:42 PM

Why am I not leaving though? Do I just not have the balls? I know something happens but it seems I want to uncover more evidence to justify my leaving. Maybe it cause we have a house and a split will get tangly.

InvoluntarilyCuc posted 10/20/2019 00:04 AM

You cannot R this. Her friends have no respect for you. She sounds like she will never choose her friends over you. Just leave.

farsidejunky posted 10/20/2019 00:21 AM

Because insisting on needing more evidence or a confession subconsciously helps you to avoid what you don't want to do:

End the relationship.

Marz posted 10/20/2019 00:23 AM

If you're looking for an excuse to stay you'll find one but you may just get more of what you've already gotten.

Buffer posted 10/20/2019 02:24 AM

Get tested ASAP for STDs and STIs some can be transmitted just by a kiss or just rubbing.
She is totally disrespectful

ramius posted 10/20/2019 02:44 AM

Because insisting on needing more evidence or a confession subconsciously helps you to avoid what you don't want to do:
End the relationship.

This^^^^

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