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17 year old niece is dying from meth addiction

Dorothy123 posted 12/11/2019 08:45 AM

My niece has been addicted to meth a for few years now that I know of.

She was such a sweet girl before she started hanging with the wrong crowd and started smoking meth.

What the meth did to my niece physically and mentally is scary and heart breaking.

My niece is a daily user.

As a family, we have tried everything to try and get my niece to stop using meth . Begging, pleading, being over protective , an intervention and nothing has worked.

I and the rest of my family has done a fair bit of trying to "save" my niece.

I have come to learn that all we were doing was just enabling my niece.

I hope and pray that one day my niece will reach her rock bottom and go seek help on her own.

Please keep my niece in your thoughts and prayers.

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 8:59 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)]

Lalagirl posted 12/11/2019 11:48 AM

Prayers being sent...and ((((HUGS))) to you, Dorothy; I know how awful addiction can be - it's hard to sit back and watch.

ZenMumWalking posted 12/11/2019 13:36 PM

Aw ((((Dorothy))))

As painful as it is, there is nothing - NOTHING - that you can do to help someone who is not ready to receive that help and turn their life around. I am so sorry that she is putting herself and her family through this.

Since she is a minor, there is still one last hope, that is if her parents can force her into some kind of in-patient rehab program that provides not only addiction help but also other therapy to provide new tools to help her with coping. I don't know if this would be covered by her parents' insurance, if not it might be prohibitively expensive. But it is possibly the last chance to get her straight before adulthood and most likely a further descent into her addiction.

I'm so sorry.

Sending lots of love, strength and mojo to you all.

((((Dorothy))))

Dear Niece - please accept this help from the people who love you and only want the best for you.

((((niece))))

sisoon posted 12/11/2019 15:08 PM

BraveSirRobin posted 12/11/2019 15:10 PM

I'm so sorry, Dorothy. This epidemic is ruthless.

Dorothy123 posted 12/11/2019 16:39 PM

Thank you everyone for your kind words and prayers.

I just hate the many manifestations of the disease of addiction.

(had to edit from manifesto to manifestation. That was a doozy of a Freudian slip )

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 4:45 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)]

demolishedinside posted 12/11/2019 21:18 PM

My heart goes out to you and your family. Prayers that she wakes up and gets the help she needs.

Hoping for a good update, Dorothy.

BearlyBreathing posted 12/11/2019 21:28 PM

Sending hugs and hoping things turn around. What a nasty addiction.

Gottagetthrough posted 12/12/2019 05:39 AM

Iím so sorry for your familyís pain. ZenMumWalking is so right- thereís nothing you or anyone else can do to have your niece Stop using, it has to be her decision. I know
The hardest thing is just letting go and saying thereís nothing i can do to make this person stop using and watching them make bad life choices.

Al-anon was helpful for me in detaching from WH when he was addicted to prescription pills and I was making myself crazy trying to figure what I could do to get him to stop

Justsomelady posted 12/12/2019 06:49 AM

The only thing that helped my cousin was prison. She has turned her life around in the aftermath as she was able to find work and rebuild through family connections. Now you would never know it, but she was really lost. No amount of concern or therapy helped her before prison, sadly she needed that to take her out of all the bad influences.

zebra25 posted 12/12/2019 07:07 AM

Thought and prayers for your niece and family. Such a horrible thing.

pureheartkit posted 12/12/2019 22:27 PM

Maybe there is someone who broke free who could talk to her. Someone who's been there.

Beautiful girl, you are just beginning, please reach out.

betsy62 posted 12/12/2019 23:41 PM

I am so sorry. Don't give up hope. As long as she is alive, there is hope.

My adult DD is a recovering Meth addict. She is almost 3 years clean.

As others have said, until they want the help, there is nothing you can do. It is heartbreaking and scary as hell to watch.

My DD went to in-patient treatment 4 times.

At her third stay, a therapist looked at me, and stated the most helpful thing I had ever been told at her treatment places....

"Don't let your child's choices destroy your life."

[This message edited by betsy62 at 11:41 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]

CatsNTats posted 12/13/2019 00:53 AM

Dorothy,

Just let her know - that when she is ready to get help you are there.

I wish I could give better advice, but I tried everything to help WH before he died in October.

Addiction is a nasty and powerful thing. She has to want help. And if she comes to you - take her to get treatment. But that is really all you can do without enabling her or pushing her further away. She has to be willing - and if the time comes when she is - she will need help getting there.

- Cats

thatbpguy posted 12/13/2019 09:53 AM

Dorothy123, so very heartbreaking. Very much in my prayers.

TheCaterpillar posted 12/13/2019 16:10 PM

I'm sorry you're in this heartbreaking situation.

Seconding the suggestion of reaching out to AlAnon or similar. There's support out there for the family members whether your niece is willing to get help or not.

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