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Cooley2here posted 1/21/2020 11:05 AM

Everyone on here has been cheated on. Some of us(me) suspected for years before confronting. It was done out of town and I have no idea how many times. By the time I confronted there were no more out of town trips. We moved on. But itís there. I have an h who cheated. Canít change that.

You have a fiancť who has made you Plan B. Either she didnít live up to his expectations or she dumped him. Do not be someoneís option. Be someoneís first choice.

Jej188 posted 1/21/2020 13:47 PM

We make ourselves believe what we want to, even if its wrong and the world is telling us its wrong. I just found out a few days about about my wife cheating and I am devastated. I made myself believe her lies because I couldn't bring myself to confront the truths. People on this forum give really good advice and many have been in your shoes. Listen to them and don't feel like your worries are invalid when it comes to your fiance.

Muurblommetjie posted 1/24/2020 01:46 AM

Thank you all for the advice, hard as it is to hear. I am bearly keeping it together, I feel so tired and drained. We are in the process of getting out of our leases but it will probably only be possible at the end of February. He is assuming that we are trying to R. A huge part of me wants to R. I love him. I mean if I didn't love him I wouldn't be this shattered would I? But I also don't know if I can ever trust him again.
I did tell him that the engagement was of.
I just wish this overwhelming sadness would leave me. I need to angry.

Cooley2here posted 1/24/2020 08:39 AM

You are wobbling between shock and bargaining within the stages of grief. Itís hard to believe a person you love could be this horrible. You want so badly for it not to be true. Sadly, it is. His friend has a double betrayal. Think about it. Your fiancť cheated on two people who trusted him. He is not good husband material at all.
Dry your tears and try to be thankful you found out about his true nature before you married him.
There are no excuses for what he did.

dblackstar2002 posted 1/24/2020 08:46 AM

I truly believe( And this is just my opinion) There are only two reasons you stay in contact with an ex. You never loved them, Or you are still in love with them. This is why when I date a woman, And I find out she is still in contact with an ex and they don't have kids together, I bail and bail hard!!!!

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