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 Hutch (original poster member #70846) posted at 2:18 AM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

I don't really post in the forums anymore, but a lot has happened in such a short period of time that my mind is quite frankly spinning.

Today I am offically divorced. I told a friend in a PM that I'm truly filled with a mix of emotions. I suppose most experience the same thing.

Life has changed immensely. My house went on the market in the current town I reside in two weeks ago. I had an offer within hours. I close in a few weeks.

My new house is 7 hours away. New city, new beginnings, new life.

I'm relieved my divorce is final and I'm completely grateful for how everything is falling into place, but sometimes I feel like I can't breathe because I'm completely overwhelmed.

[This message edited by Hutch at 8:20 PM, May 7th (Thursday)]

Divorced.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 3:22 AM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

Bittersweet congrats. Breathe the fresh air of your new beginning and take things one day at a time.

fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:36 AM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

Congrats, Hutch, on your new beginning. Your emotions are understandable. Hugs to you.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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J707 ( member #63778) posted at 5:02 AM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

When my D was final, I couldn't believe it! I celebrated a long journey that I thought would never end. I had mixed emotions too. Even a month or so after. Bittersweet congrats but it does get better. Feel your feels! Let em run through you but know that this is the beginning of a new chapter for you. All the best to you!!

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waitedwaytoolong ( member #51519) posted at 10:05 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

Congratulations! Great things coming your way!!

I am the cliched husband whose wife had an affair with the electrician

Divorced

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 Hutch (original poster member #70846) posted at 11:11 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020

@ Phoenix1 Thanks. One day at a time it is. I needed that reminder.

@ WhoTheBleep Hugs welcomed for sure. Thanks.

@ J707 Thank you. I appreciate the reminder to “feel your feels”. I think I’m having a lot of those moments. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@ waitedwaytoolong Always grateful for your encouragement and kind heart. Thank you!

Divorced.

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CoderMom ( member #66033) posted at 9:53 PM on Sunday, May 31st, 2020

Counseling might be helpful. I have been through 2 divorces, so I know firsthand...

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Planetx ( member #44928) posted at 11:21 PM on Monday, June 1st, 2020

What a journey, plan for good things ahead!

Divorced!DS 12 DS 6

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Westway ( member #71747) posted at 10:36 PM on Monday, June 8th, 2020

Congratulations Hutch!

Me: 52;

XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater

Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.

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 Hutch (original poster member #70846) posted at 11:01 PM on Monday, June 8th, 2020

@codermom - Thank you. I may do that when I'm moved and settled. Appreciate the suggestion.

@Planetx - Thank you. I'll definitely try. :-)

@Westway - Means a lot. Thinking of you too and hope your time is coming and that you're doing well.

Divorced.

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Braveyogi ( member #51596) posted at 12:12 AM on Tuesday, June 9th, 2020

Hutch - what a bittersweet time for you and so many intense transitions taking place all at once. Stay open to whatever arises - thoughts, feelings, memories. Be a witness to your own new experiences as you embark on your new beginning. Befriend all of it, because man, it is a sh*t ton of stuff going on for you, and this is an opportunity to be kind to yourself. Just meet the next thing on your path, then the next thing and the next. You got this!

Good luck in your new city. Hope it is kicka** and fun and that you meet a lot of wonderful people.

Me: BW
Him: XWH
Married 19 years, together 22 years
2 kids, 8 and 15
DDay #1 May 2010, OC born 2011
DDay #2 March 2016; moved 1500 miles away with OW#2 and her kids for a job.
Divorced May 2017
Not my circus, not my mon

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