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Gablestitch (original poster member #60148) posted at 3:41 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2020
My uncle passed yesterday. He was my mom's only sibling. We weren't particularly close but not distant either. My grandmother's estate still isn't completely settled yet either. We're still cleaning out the house. Just this past weekend we found my uncle's baby blanket.
I know everyone is done with this year but I'm extra done. It's hitting my dad hard too. Mom and Dad were high school sweet hearts so he knew my uncle as long as he knew my mom. My cousins are taking it hard and I'm trying not to be jealous that they have awesome supportive spouses. I know my WH wouldn't have given me the support I needed anyway.
Might as well throw a WH update in here too. He's now living with his dad two states away but in the other direction. I don't trust that situation at all but as his dad is extremely self centered he won't do anything to actually help WH. I just don't trust him. I never did. I worry about the advice he might give WH.....not that he'd listen at this point.
I had to scrap the vehicle he was driving too. That was interesting to organize out of state. He abandoned it in a parking lot up near his mom's home. I'm not sure who bought him a ticket and put him on a plane to his dad's. I don't care either.
I just want this whole year to be done. I'm tired of feeling sad, tired of having to push through it and damnit just tired of having to adult in general.
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
99problems ( member #59373) posted at 7:13 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2020
2020 can go die in a hole. I'm ready for it to be over.
The entire 2010's weren't all that. I'm ready for a new decade. I count the new decade starting 2021 btw :)
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 7:21 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2020
Yeah Gablestitch, you've been heard. I was just talking about this with someone yesterday that no one needs another thing to go *wrong* right now. And of course they do, but the timing is pretty stinky.
It's really tough when it keeps piling on and the light at the end of the tunnel flickers on and off.
That's one of the tough parts - we can't exactly *control* our own futures right now. It's like everyone's been thrown into limboland - and everyone around here knows how much that stinks.
(Is it bad for me to say I'm glad your WH is somewhere else? I think you nailed it with he wouldn't be much of a support for you right now regardless).
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:38 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2020
(((Gablestitch)))). I’m so sorry you are not catching a break.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 7:54 AM on Thursday, August 20th, 2020
Yep. 2020 started with a family funeral. I never thought that it would be the narrative for the entire year.
I am so done with 2020.
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:36 AM on Friday, August 21st, 2020
Where are you in the divorce process? Definitely sounds like someone I wouldn't want to be legally connected to in any way. I hope you can finally be legally done soon!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Gablestitch (original poster member #60148) posted at 12:02 AM on Saturday, August 22nd, 2020
Sorry it's taken so long to reply to all of you.
Chili, not bad of you at all! I am extra glad I didn't have to deal with him personally at all during this.
LadyG, mine pretty much started with one too. This will be family funeral three for me this year. It's been really tough for sure.
Phmh, I'm still waiting on a pretrial conference date to be set. I have a judge appointed to my case at least. Lawyer is hoping by the end of the year I'll be divorced.
Thank you all for your replies.
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 2:18 AM on Saturday, August 22nd, 2020
Sorry for your losses, Gable.
FWIW, Xhole was worthless in terms of support through my string of family deaths in 2014. So I definitely understand.
2020 blows.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
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