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Husband is back in the hospital

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Lionne posted 12/21/2020 12:25 PM

A very scary morning. He got up, rather quickly, and I heard a crash. He fell and was very disoriented. He was apparently conscious but non-responsive, intermittently. He could follow my directions a little, "stay there, don't get up" but there were periods where he looked at me as though he didn't know me. When he finally sat up, he went "out" again, and was breathing with a gurgling sound and not responding. It was terrifying.
When the paramedics got here he was better, although his lips were still gray.
They won't let me in the hospital.[CAN I JUST RANT AGAINST COVID DENIERS WHO HAVE PARTLY PUT US IN THIS POSITION!!!] He is cognitively fine right now, but until I scared him by describing his symptoms, was insisting he's fine. He is listening to me when I tell him what questions to ask.
They found low hemoglobin, not horrible, 11, but they suspect a gastric bleed, they'll monitor, are giving him a protonix drip, and if he's still low tomorrow, will do a colonoscopy and endoscopy. They've lowered his dose of blood pressure meds.
Many years ago, his mother was rushed to the hospital around this time. Her heart was severely damaged and she never came out of it when they attempted surgery, died in late January.
Me, I'm cleaning. That's what I do.

zebra25 posted 12/21/2020 12:37 PM

Huge hugs, healing mojo and prayers sent.

I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to be home instead of with him. Truly unimaginable.

Sending you strength.

wildbananas posted 12/21/2020 12:38 PM

Oh Lionne, how scary! Thinking of you both and hoping he gets well fast!

tushnurse posted 12/21/2020 12:49 PM


Hang in there honey, if it was a new fresh bleed then it could account for everything. If not they will figure things out anyway, and remember science and medicine gets better and better every day (try not to compare this to his mom).

I can tell you that I convinced myself that My H was going to have to have heart surgery when a year after getting a second stent he was having all the same symptoms he did the first time, however when they went to do pre-cardiac cath labs we found a Hgb of 7.0. Yes that's right. His heart was fine, he just didn't have enough Hbg to carry the oxygen around. Turned out he had a HUGE polyp in his colon, so it all worked out ok, if we had waited until his 50th birthday for his first colonoscopy, he would have had colon cancer.

So here's to hoping for an upper GI bleed, and a scope and home in time for Xmas. I would ask your Nurse son to be the liaison between the hospital and Dr's so he can ask the appropriate questions if he is willing to.

DragnHeart posted 12/21/2020 12:52 PM

How scary! Hes in the best place he can be. Its got to be horrible not to be able to be with him.

Lots of hugs for you.

sisoon posted 12/21/2020 13:18 PM

Sending mojo.

Chrysalis123 posted 12/21/2020 15:06 PM

Hang in there. He is in the best place to get the help he needs. Please take special care of yourself right now. You know the drill.


somanyyears posted 12/21/2020 15:06 PM

..OMG !!so sorry to learn of your situation.

Some of his symptoms sound like those I experienced with seizures I had in summer of 2019.

sending prayers and ++++mojo


Lionne posted 12/21/2020 19:32 PM

Well, it gets more complicated. They don't think the hemoglobin issue caused the syncope.
The hospital is filled to the brim. The waiting room was filled in the ER.
They are monitoring him and will reassess tomorrow after rechecking his hemoglobin. But anything other than medication management is out of the question because of the 3 blood thinners he is on.
I'll make sure I'm on the phone when the doctor comes in tomorrow to talk to him.
The good news is that all 3 bathrooms are spotless, wood floor cleaned and carpets shampooed and furniture back in place!

BearlyBreathing posted 12/21/2020 19:51 PM

Sending mojo—— and sorry you are having to do this during the Covid surge.

Chili posted 12/21/2020 20:18 PM

Oh Lionne - I clean my emotions too. Sending all the good things to you tonight and for a positive outcome.

thebighurt posted 12/21/2020 22:34 PM

Lionne, sending Mojo, good thoughts and healing light. Can't imagine the worry of not being able to go to the hospital, especially when they are jammed with cases. Try not to stress so much.

lieshurt posted 12/22/2020 07:35 AM


tushnurse posted 12/22/2020 07:45 AM


Let us know what's up when you know more.
3 blood thinners - I am assuming they scanned his beaner to make sure no brain bleeds?

Hopefully some answers will come soon.

Lionne posted 12/22/2020 07:59 AM

It's on my list to ask the doctor...they talked about a ct scan, did do a cheat xray, not sure about a covid test.

HFSSC posted 12/22/2020 16:24 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. Keeping you and yours in my prayers.

Lionne posted 12/30/2020 08:07 AM

Update: GI doctor is good. She explained everything to him and will contact his heart surgeon to check about taking him off the blood thinners temporarily. In any event, they have scheduled a colonoscopy and endoscopy for mid January even if he still is on them. He's to be scoped at the hospital in case of complications. They may not be able to snip any substantial polyps or do any other intervention, but they need to see what's up.
It sucks that I can only be there by phone.
In the meantime, he's finally listening to me about the timing of his meds, and is on B12 and iron in addition to his other meds.
He is still easily tired and frequently out of breath with exertion. That worries me and my son the nurse.
We see the cardiologist before the procedures, so I'll ask her about the CT scan and carotid doppler.
One day at a time. And thanks for the SI love!

Shockedmom posted 12/30/2020 08:30 AM

Sending a little more mojo. How very scary for all of you.

tushnurse posted 12/30/2020 08:59 AM


Sounds like they have him going down the right path.
Ask about Vitamin D for him as well. He probably is low and it will impact his energy level. Most Cardiac Dr's surgeons and cardiologists are ok w/ it, but double check.

Hope he continues to improve and the scope in a month is No big deal.

WhatsRight posted 1/3/2021 11:32 AM

Oh, I’m just now seeing this.

Bless your heart.

Thanks for all the updates. So very hard not to be there.

Will be sending lots of prayers your way.

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