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A few weeks ago, when a longtime friend of mine found out I left my husband, he started contacting me(text)with sexual propositions. But get this....no shocker to anyone here.....HE'S MARRIED. He kepts telling me how he's such a lonely soul and I'm a free woman now... and how much he cares for me...always did..

Here is my question: When I stop to think about it, all the men I know (neighbors, family, co-workers, etc) I cannot for the life of me pick out one faithful man, except for my grandpa, I think. Are there ANY faithful men out there in this society with rampant porn at their fingertips and no-moral women???????

Because if I have a future of nothing but unfaithful men...why am I leaving my WH???????? Someday I want to be re-married, but not to a cheater...is that possible??

BTW, that so called "friend" of mine, I told him to lose my number or I will block him. Then I told him to get marriage counselling.

*raises hand*

Faithful man here

*raises hand*

Generalizations get you nowhere.

I'm as honest and loyal as a person can be. My dealings with lady folk outside of my marriage, even by myself with no one "watching", are kept simple and to the point. I last watched porn when I was a teen and even then the stuff never did do much for me. I don't check out other women and I'm not interested quite frankly.

I have my wife. I love my wife. I am ever faithful to her.

There are plenty of men in the world who are. It's not a gender thing. Women cheat too. That's actually why I'm here as well as every other BH. You made a comment about moral-less women, are you without morals? I'd assume not. There are faithful men in the world, it's unfortunate you seem surrounded by those who aren't.

Same here (with hand raised)!

And see what it got me. I was her second choice and always will be even after over 50 years of marriage.

Nice retirement, Huh?

Yes there are a lot of faithful men out there. Like me. Despite being treated like garbage by their W, they still stay faithful. Society call us "chumps," for being honorable. Society doesn't value fidelity in men the way it does with women.

Obviously if there weren't women who were willing to cheat with a married man, there would be less of a problem too.

im here, but taken.

Yes, I'm here.

Infidelity is not gender specific.

I was gonna answer "Nope, none at all, we all moved to a mountain in Tibet." I guess I just did anyway.

Yes and not just men on this website. I have several friends who are in healthy stable marriages that do not cheat. Aside from communication problems, I thought I had one too.

Like you, I've lost all trust in women but know that I'm in a bad place right now and maybe one day my feelings will change. For now, I'm going to work on me, my kids, and my relationship with the man upstairs.

I wonder the same thing about women. Every one I ever dated cheated.

There are many faithful and good men. I work with several and have worked with many more over the years.

These men are professional in their work relationships. They have pictures of wives and children on their desks and their boundaries are so strong that there is no chance for them to go down the slippery slope.

I respect and admire these men.

Probably more than previous generations. Women are actual people now and stuff.

Are there ANY faithful men out there in this society?

HOORAY for faithful men and all your raised hands! This thread made me smile and set my day on a good path. There's hope!

And this:

Women are actual people now and stuff.

AHAHAHAHA!!! Funny!

Ditto here on the faithfulness side of the male equation.

In all seriousness, statistically we faithful people are outnumbered by those that find monogamy not to be their bag. So, yeah, I get your frustration with the notion that NOBODY is playing fair anymore.

But, I think you have some trustworthy (if not fully verifiable) examples in this thread alone that tells you that not all men are built alike; some of us are loyal and are just plain superior. :)

[This message edited by whatashame90 at 10:25 AM, October 25th (Thursday)]

Faithful man here as well. I actually know plenty of faithful guys who have been betrayed by their wives. Definitely not a gender issue.

I feel the real question should be: Are there any faithful people in today's society?

BTW, how about showing the "friend" of yours wife the texts that your "friend" has been sending you?

Do you really believe there are no faithful men?

Thank you! Thank you! To all who answered. I do have hope. I think my anger got the better of me... I do believe in a better future.

I have had chances/opportunities to do whatever I wanted emotionally and physically with other women outside of my 23 year marriage, and never even considered it, PERIOD...

Yeah, my cheater wife will throw that as an unkind slam with the "OOOh, your so high and mighty"; it's simply the truth. I have very strong boundaries that will not get even close to crossed, and do not put myself in situations that are less than conducive to that.

Could I falter, Absolutely; just the same I take pride in not being "that guy", am genuine, and actively put up a wall when around women in a situation where it could go to a level my vows and self would not allow.

Not that it is an excuse, but technology sure does not help... How many of the affairs do we read about here that include texting, FB, email, ect... All too easy for folks who cheat, and gives them instant gratification drug like effects.

Hand raised here as well. Honor and integrity are a choice....and there are plenty of us who do choose to walk that path.