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exhausted lady (original poster member #30217) posted at 8:17 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I wanted to come on here and let you all know that my father lost his battle with cancer/MRSA on Tuesday afternoon. He died at 3:45.
But, he died in his own home, surrounded by his family. We all had our hands holding him as he went. It was peaceful, calm, and a blessing that he is no longer suffering. We were able to fulfill his wishes and one of the last things he told me was that I was "doing a good job". High praise from a man of few words but a man of much love.
My heart is heavy, but my soul is light because I know he is no longer in pain, and we let him go freely, with no loose ends. I even got to fix him a shrimp dinner for the last meal he ate (I didn't know it would be his last at the time).
The world is a poorer place without the him, but he is at peace and no longer suffering. For that, I am grateful.
I'll be back later. I just wanted my SI peeps to know he had passed, and passed as he wished. Love to you all.
E.L.
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
HeavyE ( member #19333) posted at 8:43 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
My deepest sympathy. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:26 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((exhausted lady)))
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:29 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((((Exhaustedlady)))))
I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 12:23 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I am so very sorry, exhausted. 
My thoughts, prayers, and hugs are with you and your family.
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
cass ( member #24261) posted at 12:34 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss.
(((exhausted lady)))
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:37 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I'm sorry ((exhausted lady))
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:51 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:13 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
((((exhausted lady and family)))) So sorry for your loss.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your father is in peace now.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 2:58 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:10 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((((exhausted Lady))))))
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:37 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((((exhausted lady)))))
I'm so sorry for your loss.
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 4:02 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((exhausted lady & family)))
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a gift and testimony to your dad that you were all with him at the end. I sure that helped give him a sense of peace.
Relief from suffering is a blessing indeed, however it is not easy to say the final goodbye I know. 
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 4:04 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((exhausted lady)))
My heartfelt condolences.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:23 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((exhausted lady))) Lucky man to have everyone with him at home in the end.
Big hugs. I know it is a relief but it leaves a big hole in your world when they move on from here.
He will always be with you though.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 4:56 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
((( el )))
I wish peace for you and your family.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 6:17 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
(((el))) keeping you in my thoughts. so sorry for your loss.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 7:27 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I'm so sorry EL; I'm glad that you are celebrating his life, though. (((((exhausted lady)))))
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 7:28 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2013
I'm so very sorry for your loss, but I understand the peace that comes from knowing that your loved one is no longer suffering.
((((exhausted lady))))
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
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