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Reconciliation :
Holy Crap. Thanks gang

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

So I upgraded to Platinum membership today, I figured that this site had helped me so much that I ought to give back a tiny bit.

Two things came out of this.

First...note the awesome new name. You know you love it.

Second--I was able to go back and re-read my posts. More importantly I was able to go back and see how far I have come in this healing process.

Re-reading some of my original posts is almost surreal. The pain reflected in them is so raw and deep. But man, re-reading YOUR posts in support and advice was amazing.

I won't name names, but most of you are still on these boards. People were there for me and JNRPA right from the start. And we didn't exactly have an easy road. I re-read some of our blow-up threads that ended up dividing SI against itself (over a stupid facebook post). But man, everyone stuck around, encouraged us, supported us, 2x4'd us. But mostly, listened to us and empathized with us.

This journey is long and hard. I am definitely not the same person I was when I came here desperately seeking someone to hear me and help me deal with my devastation. As a person, maybe I'm better, maybe I'm worse, but I am sure stronger now. That strength came from many of you.

I know that I am not always the most serious poster on here (see my name), but I do try to be sincere. And I do feel your pain and struggles. I have been there. Hell, I still struggle at times (read frequently).

Reading my past posts today, and your responses was so touching. So Thank You. Thank you. Thank you.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 12:43 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

This is a superduper post, SDWB.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 12:49 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Only YOU could get away with such a sassy name.

It is quite a thing to be able to go back and look at the beginning of the journey. Not for the weak, that's for sure.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 12:51 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

SuperDuperWonderboy

I like to go back and read my old threads. Not for what was happening with me (I was there, I remember).....but to read the responses. I can read them differently now. (AND I see that it's true -- the advice I got was typically *spot on*.)

I STILL remember those blow-up threads. Wow. It's amazing that you and JN have come as far as you have. And very nice to see. You give off a lot of *good energy* these days.

Thanks for sticking around.....

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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unfound ( member #12802) posted at 12:51 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Don't encourage him Sister

It's been quite a ride, hasn't it? That strength actually has been in you all along... it sometimes just takes others to help you not just see it, but believe it's there.

ka-mai
*************
Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 12:53 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

To the four posters above. I read responses from all of you today on my old threads. Thank you.

And yes, re-reading the posts and advice from a more "removed" place is quite amazing. You guys were spot on. And your compassion was amazing.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 1:42 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Funny SDWb! (sorry for the encouragement)

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 1:48 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Considering that you and I were kinda at the same spot at the same time....I highly doubt that I was very encouraging.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 1:57 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

If you don't believe that Gonna, go back and read the Facebook blow-up threads.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 2:19 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

I'm glad I caught your post, now that wonderboy has not only gone Platinum but also SuperDuper as well.

It's wonderful you found SI back when the crapstorm hit, and I'm happy you and JNRPA survived. Very cool.

You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 2:29 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Do you remember the titles?

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 11:31 AM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

I am a platinum level too...but don't see all of my previous posts. I see a lot more then I did, but was hoping to see all of them.

Is this possible? Am I just not doing something right?

Regardless...I am pleased to support this site.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 4:09 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Too little too late was her post. Mine was like "she signed the waiver". I think.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 4:10 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Thanks sad. It really is amazing that we are getting through this. The early posts are gut wrenching

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 4:12 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Blake. Are you going to the SImplicity site? That's where they are stored. Click the link in the red banner near the top of the page.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:12 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Like the name change

A chance to reread is always an interesting process. To see how far we have come in our thoughts and feelings regarding this stuff.

BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 4:21 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

I think it is a good sign you were able to read all of that old pain and come out of it with a feeling of healing, and not anger. Nice work, dorkboy.

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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 SuperDuperWonderboy (original poster member #34716) posted at 6:11 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

I have this fantasy that JNRPA will right now, RIGHT NOW, email her friends back and apologize for lying to them and misleading them and own that WB has every right to divorce her and why.

Except then I fear it would give WB hope and geez, I think we should blindfold him and stuff in him a closet instead to protect him.

Said by Rebreather in May of 2012.

Dorkboy or not...you guys were good to me.

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

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Tred ( member #34086) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Well, thought I'd find an interesting meme going on here, but not a single GIF to be found. Nothing to see, moving along...

Dorkboy

Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 6:22 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013

Love the NAME! It fits you. You have helped me in ways when it comes to a man piont of view. Thank you.

I don't think that I could reread my post as they are most likely desperate and pathic. And I don't want to relieve the pain because I am so not there yet.

Thank you for showing us that real men are out there!

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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