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Thankfully I never acted on any of these, but I spent a lot of time thinking of ideas to get back at my WS/his AP.

What ideas did you have that you were glad you didn't act upon?

Mine were:

-wash all of WS's clothes and whoops! Add too much bleach.

-throw away one half of every pair of shoes he owned, so he wouldn't have a matching pair.

-cut weird holes in his clothes (like right where his nipples would be in his tshirts).

-use chalk to write on the sidewalk by her house and around their building at work that *** ***** SLEEPS WITH MARRIED MEN.

-make hundreds of copies of their ridiculous conversations and drop copies of them around the perimeter of the building they work at.

-crash the office Christmas party with our kids (I'm so, so glad I didn't do this, especially since my MIL was encouraging me with this one and thought this would be a good way to "end their affair").

-steal his/our car while it was parked at her house (he didn't realize I still had a key) and just park it somewhere he wouldn't find it and hope that it eventually got ticketed and towed.

Honestly, I'm really glad I didn't do any of these things. Instead I put myself and the kids in therapy, read books on infidelity, leaned on my friends and family for support, and did my best to move forward.

I wanted to walk into AP's workplace and anger him into swinging on me in front of everyone. He's customer-facing and has a job that requires being trusted, so he'd immediately get fired. I've also wanted to slash his tires, but held back from both.

I bit him in the wallet.

Leaving all my $ to my kids when I die. He has no idea as he doesn’t have access to those accounts.

And yes we are happily reconciled. I do love him.

But my $ is not going to the next wife or GF.

I did do one bad thing.

I decided to do an exorcism of my closet and pack up all of his things. While doing that, I discovered that my beloved cats has left him several presents in his socks and underwear. Stinky presents. Solid AND liquid presents. So I packed it all up, and you know what? I FORGOT! I FORGOT about those boxes in the garage. In July. In 90-degree heat.

When he finally received them, I hope the stench knocked them over.

Other than that, I have showed great restraint in not opening the seacocks to his sailboat, advertising a garage sale with lots of antiques and baby things at his residence at an inopportune time or renting a billboard.

Cat

I let them have each other

What a mess it turned to

Seen this thread?

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=607874&AP=1&HL=

I’ll admit, I think my regret is more for NOT doing them. Most days I’m wishing I would!

1) 4x8 billboard with both their pictures and verbiage of “watch your spouse, these two are cheaters” at the entrance to our neighborhood.

2) going to his work requesting him for a test drive and me saying NOTHING about the affair. Just to see him try and worm his way out of the test drive and see his uncomfortableness while we’re driving.

3) mail the timeline of the affair to his wife, work, my wife’s family.

4) laying the college kid at the father/daughter dance to project his picture on the gym and announce “has anyone seen this cheater. So all the dads in town know he’s a cheater.

5) while on my daily run, pass him and body check him to the ground.

6) when pulled over and asked why I was speeding tell the officer “I was upset about my wife’s affair”. She was sitting next to me as we passed the officer.

7) going to his house and if anyone other than AP answers ask “is the cheater home?”. Then beating him to within an inch of his life while his family looks on.

8) dragging my WW to his porch and dumping her and her stuff on the porch and saying to whomever answers “she’s ur problem now”.

I have many more but these are my favs. I will add that I won’t do these as a) it will compromise my integrity and I’m not that man b) most of these are directed at the AP. My WW is more guilty so if I can’t do these too her, I can’t do too him.

Put up chloroplast signs throughout town, right after service begins, advertising a free church party and amateur boxing match. Mid-sermon, walk in with the POSOM, serial-cheating, drunken, hypocrite preacher’s 3 cases of beer from his toolbox, cooler full of ice from his floorboard, case of cigarettes, case of Certs to cover beer/smokers breath, his AP’s notebook, four burner phones (one smashed with hammer), his married/divorced ex-AP’s, all of the BH’s, video/texting evidence, some free boxing gloves for BH’s. Then watch as he drives away dragging all of his empty beer cans behind his truck. The cans that he dumped at local gas stations to hide from his wife.

Seen this thread?

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=607874&AP=1&HL=

No, lol. Last post was from before I joined SI. Thanks for sharing though!

I wanted to (and might still) glue sardines to the inside of his tires, and throw some under his office air vent.

This is positively pedestrian compared to everyone else’s especially as it was more about disposing of triggers, but I very much enjoyed carefully cutting off with scissors the fingers of the VERY expensive leather gloves he had bought along with an even more expensive jacket he had bought to impress OW whilst shopping with her. I drew the line at the jacket though as it was almost the price of a cheap secondhand car (that’s how bad he felt about himself underneath), so rehomed it charitably.

Slicing through with scissors had a useful vicariously powerful feeling about killing off remnants of the affair but I kind of feel bad about the gloves, in that some poor animal died in vain for them never to be used.

[This message edited by Edie at 3:19 AM, April 10th (Wednesday)]

I exacted revenge. I went after OW's job and the friend she had that worked in my office for not doing her job. She had given OW some freebies but I followed another avenue of her lack of work ethic. She was a liar and a cheat. I have and would have fired anyone for doing what she did. I do wonder sometimes how that made OW feel, asking for a freebie favor and then her friend lost her job.

I was investigated by HR but nothing came of it. WH asked me to leave OW alone, that it was on him. I just couldn't she knew he was married and pursued him anyway. She wanted to play the Damsel so I thought I would help her out.

How did all that make me feel? No better actually but I feel no regret. Nothing can ever compare or make up for the pain and damage that rained down on me like a hurricane.

Never though about damaging his stuff because I already pretty pissed about the money he wasted on that c*nt

The mow was an employee in our family business - I do not work there, met her one time - and after dday I made sure she was fired. It was me or him or her. My mil refused to do it because of the loyalty the ow showed her and told wh he wasn’t leaving either, smh. That confirmed my mil was a compete idiot, since they’d used company money to screw. And my loyalty meant nothing. Mow thought she would run off with wh and have lifetime job security by fucking the owner, but they eventually fired her. She was the family (4 kids) breadwinner and had been there 14 years. Her firing helped me only a little, frankly. You can’t hurt narcissistic people, they just blame others.

Once she left, customers came back in droves, coworkers told management about how awful she was, everyone was relieved. Wh was humiliated all over again, and ow had to start over, without a college degree, in the industry. She’s over 50 and had spent years fucking men she viewed as relevant and powerful, and then watched younger coworkers pass her on the ladder. She bj-ed her way to the middle.

I wanted a lot of nastier revenge, but I couldn’t fathom hurting her kids. I didn’t care about her bh - he was her former brother in law turned am turned husband, so he got his karma by fucking his brothers wife. Just very trashy people. Wh started other businesses outside of the family one and they are booming, with no family or toxic people involved.

My life is improving, I think that’s good revenge.

Darn Ntv, that's my favorite all time thread here!

I'm glad you reposted so that I can bookmark it!

Here's my first post on it.

I can't believe Malibubaybreeze and myself weren't invited on this road trip.

I stay away from this area for one day and I'm already forgotten.

Here's my story...

My wife and I were trying to reconcile. It was election night in the US (Super Tuesday).

My wife notices an email from her AP. She immediately showed me and we had a little fun with it.

Her AP is a cop and we've already been to internal affairs about him contacting her before. We don't know what became of that.

He obviously hadn't learned.

So we bait him on. He ask how she could turn him in like that. We told him that i made her do it. We kept baiting him until we got to the PD the next morning. He got a months time off. Lost his brand new camaro and lost his apartment.

What a shame!

[This message edited by Wool94 at 5:36 AM, April 10th (Wednesday)]

..finding his name in the 'obituary column' and pissing on his grave worked for me!

The Lord took His revenge on 'my friend'...took 30-40 years off his life.

Good riddance...

smy

I can't remember where I read this one, but I saw a post about a BW who, on the day she moved out, unscrewed the ends from the dining room curtain rods, filled them with sardines, and replaced them. She learned later from a family member that XWH and OW went nuts trying to find the smell. Threw out the curtains. Replaced the rug. Finally replaced the drywall. That got rid of it, but only because they didn't put the rods back up.

I have to admit that my revenge schemes for WH and AP were accomplished except for one -

I wanted to write on her car "FUCKS MARRIED MEN"

But I didn't. Only because I love cars and she had a sweet one. Sooo....had she had a car I didn't drool over, I *so* would have done it.

Although since being on here, I have heard of someone swishing the toothbrush in the toilet. WISH I had thought of that one!

* miracle grow in his underwear

* let them have each other

* in reincarnation, their beloved screws several of their family members, best friends, boss and gives the cheater herpes.

* that everywhere they go, people scream, "Cheater! Liar!"

* that the betrayed finds the truest of loves and lives well and the cheaters get shit and they see their ex happy.

* that I leave everything to family, not him.

* that the cheaters go a Cheaters Unite! cruise and it's shipwrecked on a deserted island.

* that the betrayeds win the lottery after the divorce.

* that family and friends turn their backs on them.

* that schmoopie cheats like the dickens and dumps them.

To let him continue down this destructive path...

To let them continue this destructive relationship...

One day, not too far, it will expose itself...the same as it did to me...

and the fantasy unicorn land will implode...when he left me, he had this fantasy to move toward...what happens when reality hits? there is no next..and he lost it all..he lost himself mostly...his health...his life. His family...

He will be alone.......with very bad health.. The NPD prophecy is true.

Oh what things I’ve thought of doing to them both...one thing I did do but didn’t follow through with.. they both work at the same place, she is a drug testing nurse working for a company hire through a power plant and my husband works for a contracting company that’s also hired through this power plant so I called her corporation and rated her out and telling them I had proof and I wanted something done about her actions because it’s against policy for him and her.. so they said they would investigate.. well she found out and tried to turn the tables and said I was harassing her.. so they got ahold of my husbands company and pulled my husband into a meeting and told him that his wife needs to stop harassing or he would be fired.. I wish I would of kept pressing the issue and let them both get fired.. but I didn’t!!

Of course I’ve thought of putting their recorded conversation of them cheating on social media.

I wanted to go to where they work and out them both to everyone that works there, plus knock her teeth down her throat.

I wanted to tell her husband about the affair that’s been going on behind his back, I did try to reach him, but didn’t work out.

I wanted to put exlax in my husbands coffee.

Believe me I want them to feel the pain they have put me through!!