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Now my cheating soon to be ex is threatening to sue me. Telling me that its defamation to tell people he cheated. I have proof but I cant use it in court. Other than a text message of me saying he cheated and him replaying yes. But I have screen shots of their conversations that I cant use in court because his phone was passcoded. Talking about having sex and even discussing plans to do it without a condom. He knows he is a liar and a cheater. So the fact that he would sue me for telling others is insane. He really only cares about his image. Doesn't want anyone to know the disgusting things he has done to our marriage. I don't know how much more of this harassment I can take.

You are divorcing from a dirty liar and a cheater.

I would not worry much about those threats. He is trying to manipulate you, eventually it will add to his fault in the divorce

Have you asked your lawyer about this? I wouldn’t worry about it because how can he prove his damage that is caused by your defamation vs a part of the divorce process? Unless his startup is losing investors because they heard about the upcoming divorce (yes it would be the divorce they worry about not why you divorce), otherwise I would imagine 80% of divorces would have this defamation filed by both parties.

Tell him to go ahead and sue you. You will then sue him plus lawyers vista and fees and interest.

Tell him to have his lawyer contact your lawyer.

Don’t be afraid of this tactic. He’s a bully.

there's nothing to really handle regarding threats to sue. Threats are just talk.

Generally, truth is an absolute defense to defamation. In most cases, by initiating legal action against you, he would actually grant you discovery rights that could potentially give you that evidence anyway AND he may very well draw even more attention to his bad behavior by putting the situation in the public record. To succeed, he would most likely have to prove what you are saying is false and you knew it was false. Consult an attorney for specific advice for your case.

Again threats are just talk. HE says it's defamation, which brings me to another adage: don't take legal advice from the opposing party.

Nonsense! He would have to prove that the accusations were false, that you knew they were false, and that you acted with malicious intent. He's either bluffing or ignorant of how defamation cases are handled by the courts.

Politely let him know that if he does sue, the information will be made a part of the public record.

And then remind him that he's a dumbass.

Thank you everyone you really set my mind as ease. Funny enough I ran the scenario through chatgpt that essentially said a lawyer would not advise him to act on that situation and if they did it would come with them telling him to remain silent and sending me a cease and desist. Chatgpt basically said he likely doesnt even have a lawyer based on his words and actions. This isnt the first time I suspected he doesnt. On top of two weird "my lawyer advised me" situations, this being the second, no lawyer fees at all showing up in the account, and no lawyer called on his call logs, im starting to believe there really isnt one. That his "lawyer" is either bis brother or friends giving him advice. This is so deranged but on brand with the pathological liar he is. Oh and the timing of these lawyers. He was supposedly made aware of the "defamation" today and his lawyer was immediately available to discuss it with him immediately without an appointment on a holiday? The last was was in the middle of a weekend. Meanwhile I had to wait weeks to get in with my lawyer. And she certainly isnt accessible the very minute I need her on weekends and holidays to give me advice.

[This message edited by WoundedFox at 4:04 AM, Tuesday, January 20th]

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