This is my first post but I joined a while back.
I(M48) discovered my partner(F43) was having an affair back in June last year. Weve been together for 23 years living tother most of that time, and we have 2 children. I was suffering with depression and was slowly losing the will to carry on, so I had no idea anything was wrong. She had been under a lot of stress with work and we were not communicating properly. We both cried and shouted and after a short break dicided to try and reconcile.
Im by no means perfect and the relationship has had highs and lows like any other. But I always thought we loved each other deeply.
Things were going ok until christmas.
While looking through photos of family days out and such on a tablet I discovered screenshots of messages to a male friend of hers. There were also crying selfies and memes about not being able to be with someone you love. Theses were from a few years previous. She worked with this man for a while and was friends with his partner aswell. They had both been to the house and I had met them several times.
When I asked her about it she said the messages were about ending their friendship as he was being a dick, and she did not think of him romantically and nothing did or ever would of happened. I could accept that, just, but the selfies and memes just dont sit right. I cant think of a valid reason for them to be there. Maybe the fact that I know she could do it, means that Im overthinking things ?
Before the infidelity I would of said there was no way she would do it, but now I know she can. Maybe she has always been cheating and I never noticed before ?
Anyway if you have any thoughts or insights they I will be very gratefull. Thanks
