SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

My head and heart are fighting against each other, one’s telling me to stay the other is telling me to open my eyes and look what has gone on and end it.

I’ve read over and over but still can’t make a decision. Throughout the day I sway, if we didn’t have young children I would walk away without looking back. I just feel stuck and fed up now. I just miss my old life and the security and the man I thought he was. It’s been over a year since the first DDay.

I’m wanting to know what was it that made you decide to walk away? How long after discovering/attempting reconciliation?

You have enough "reasons" to walk away.

But here’s what matters. Deciding for yourself what is the best choice.

Ask yourself this - do I want to be living like this (crying, anxious, mistreated, etc) for another year or month or week or day?

No one here can give you the answers. For some people, they would only hold out hope of true Reconciliation for so long and then they would make the decision to end the marriage or relationship where

Some people walk away at the first sign of infidelity. It’s a deal breaker. Period.

While we ended up reconciling (by a miracle) I can tell you that I planned to D my H after 6 months of his continued lying and cheating. For me, on dday2 the anger phase kicked in and I was done.

I had kids and a house I couldn’t afford in my own and a job with a company that made my cheating H look like a saint, unexpected death in the family — all of it at the same time as the affair.

I decided my sanity and peace of mind had to come first. Period.

I hope this helps you.

duplicate

[This message edited by The1stWife at 8:09 PM, Friday, June 5th]