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She-Ra ( member #36033) posted at 8:20 PM on Monday, January 7th, 2013
this one hasn't been bumped for a while.. also helpful.
Former story began here July 2012
We were mad-hatters. I was a WW first then a BS. Separated May 2017. 2 kids.
Met my new beginning May 2019 just discovered his EA Oct 2020 4 days after we bought a house
Belle29 ( member #35501) posted at 1:42 AM on Tuesday, January 8th, 2013
The timing of this is perfect. Thank you for such an honest post.
Me: BS
Her: WS
DDay: 4/27/2012
It's a rollercoaster ride for sure......and I never did like rollercoasters. That's why I got off.
SandAway ( member #37775) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, January 15th, 2013
Bumping 
fWW
BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011
Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 7:34 PM on Friday, January 18th, 2013
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 1:16 PM on Saturday, February 2nd, 2013
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
SandAway ( member #37775) posted at 8:49 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Bumping from Page 8 - Yikes!!
fWW
BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011
Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:25 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013
Bump
pizzalover ( member #38336) posted at 7:51 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013
Bump - love this. I'm going to clear out my lifeboat.
Trying to rebuild each day
Me - WW 41
Him - BH 41 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats
Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 9:27 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013
BS here. I read this forum a lot. It helps me understand my H mindset a little more. What it also did (I was not expecting) was allow me to feel empathy towards the Unfaithful partner as they faced the damage created and dealt with some long-time ghosts. I also see the determination to repair and rebuild.
Great post Wincing! I read it and can point to where we are right now.
When D-Day came around, I kept hearing Annie Lennoxs' Why, in my head with the tired-sounding lyrics..."this boat is sinking, this boat is sinking".
I don't hear that song anymore.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
happierdays ( member #38537) posted at 12:15 AM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
This is such a wonderful analogy, I'm going to send it to my WH. I think it might help him see our lifeboat is lost in the fog.
Me - 40 something
WH - 40 something
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 12 years
2 DD
Burl ( member #31747) posted at 7:37 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Bump
Its hard work. Its worth it but it may take 2-3 years
me FWH, 43,
wife BS 43
5 beautiful kids, 6-14 y.o.
DDAY Dec 2010
MC since Dec 2010
both going to IC
LTA
Doing everything I can to help my beautiful wife heal from the anguish and pain I have caused.ounting on a miracle
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 5:36 AM on Saturday, May 11th, 2013
*bump*. 
[This message edited by wincings_sparkle at 7:00 PM, June 9th (Sunday)]
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 12:59 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
For a friend, bump.
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 1:21 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
Great thread of your to bump...thank you
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 7:00 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
my2sons ( new member #40216) posted at 3:26 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Wonderful analogy! As a newbie, this is incredibly helpful.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 8:15 PM on Wednesday, August 28th, 2013
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 3:53 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
Newbies...
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
hurtsobadinside ( member #35308) posted at 2:01 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
No Stop Sign here.....
Thank you..and this is so insightful and so...on the mark!
I'm with all the others that think this is "Healing Library" material
it's Just Fabulous!
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 4:09 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
bump
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