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OktoberMest ( member #34173) posted at 4:54 PM on Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012
Thanks for bumping. Great read...well written. :)
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:12 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012
2_4giving4_2long ( member #34008) posted at 10:53 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012
You really get it wincings_sparkle
That's all I'm asking from my WH. I am so tired but working like a mad woman with a pail bailing the water out of the sinking boat. However, my bucket is getting more holes in it :-(
Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.
lifeblowntobits ( member #33687) posted at 11:16 PM on Friday, March 16th, 2012
wincings sparkle this is awesome!! printed it for fWH to read as it sums up exactly where I am at 8 months out! Thank you!
**bumping this for some BS in R forum!
Me-BS-44, Him-WH-45-very remorseful
OW-Married, opportunistic co-worker whore
DD#1 7-30-2011: everything else lies until 2-12-12
Married 11years, DS19y, DS15y
2.5 years out: in a good place, light at the end of the tunnel
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 5:48 PM on Monday, April 9th, 2012
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
Lost333 ( member #35182) posted at 2:35 AM on Tuesday, April 10th, 2012
Really liked this-helps me conceptualize the work I need to do.
Me:29,WS/BS Him:27, BS/WS (DontTreadOnMe) His Dday 2/19/12. My Dday 9/29/12
Married: 2 yrs, together 4 1/2
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" Anais Nin
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 12:36 AM on Friday, May 4th, 2012
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 10:57 PM on Friday, June 1st, 2012
Buumping for someone in need
Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 4:55 PM on Sunday, August 12th, 2012
Bump for a new guy starting down the right path.
Remorsefulguy ( member #36435) posted at 6:45 PM on Sunday, August 12th, 2012
Thanks! This definitely helps.
Me: WH (32)
BS: 41
Met: September 2003 Married: March 2004
Porn-free for: 16 Days
Previous D-Days: 8/09, 9/17/11
Latest D-Day: 8/10/12 and last!
MyNewReality ( member #36512) posted at 9:00 PM on Friday, August 17th, 2012
I'm a longtime lurker, and I just wanted to share how meaningful this analogy was for me as a BS. The Waywards who post in these forums are so brave and thoughtful. I sent it to my WS and hope desperately that he can keep bailing when I'm too exhausted.
Me: BS, 33
Him: WS, 36
Married: 10 years
DDay#1: 4-4-12
DDay#2: 8-14-12
R: ?
"Rock bottom can become the solid foundation on which to build your life."
ptsdrecon ( member #36031) posted at 7:27 PM on Friday, August 24th, 2012
Me BH (48)
Her FWW (39 + 1/2)
Married 12+
2 Angels 8 10
D-Day Feb 1 2012
6 month EA PA
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:07 AM on Saturday, August 25th, 2012
My WH and I are both sailors. I think that this is one that I definately need to share with him.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 11:09 AM on Monday, September 3rd, 2012
Bump. 
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 6:39 AM on Thursday, October 11th, 2012
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
Teach8 ( member #36521) posted at 9:05 PM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 12:40 AM on Tuesday, October 16th, 2012
Bumping for another newbie.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
wincings_sparkle (original poster member #27129) posted at 3:18 AM on Wednesday, November 21st, 2012
Bumping for a friend.
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light
Bokomo ( new member #37498) posted at 10:48 AM on Wednesday, November 21st, 2012
Brilliant. Thank you for an exceptional post. Thank you
WH 28 / BS 27
M: 3 years, together 5, knowing 19
1 DS
D-day 1/12; TT to 12/12
- Divorcing but working on R. -
"English isn't my first language so excuse any grammar mistakes"
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 3:30 AM on Friday, November 30th, 2012
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
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