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Thank God he's awake. Good luck, Lost. ((HUGS))

When they get about ready to release him, he will have to have a psychological evaluation done before the physician will release him due to possible suicide attempt. The person doing the evaluation will determine if he is stable enough mentally to go home or if he needs to be placed elsewhere. This they will usually leave up to the spouse to decide on placement and this can be enforced by the local law enforcement to escort him where he needs to be placed. Do not feel guilty if this is what you have to do, it is for his own safety. Sending prayers and ((Hugs)) your way.

That is good news, L. Thank you for keeping us up to date. You are handling everything like a star. Sending hugs and strength.

Great news Lost! Good on you too for finding your voice. Even if it is a quiet voice, or loud to the hills, it is yours and this is your husband.

When you married DOTM entrusted you with some decisions by default ... this is one of them. He is not well enough to make these decisions - so now you must.

With some time to get over the shock and grief that their sons life is so out of control - MIL & FIL may become strong allies. I don't know what your relationship with them is like. I do remember there is a long history for DTOM and FOO issues.

so the above might be a real reach. It is likely they (especially MIL) will lwant to escape the self-blame that is predictable for a mother in this situation and look to lay that on you.

Stay strong and resist this Lost. If this occurs ... come back here to SI - we will remind you of all you have done to heal yourself and your marriage. All you have done to build an environment where DTOM would have been safe to heal - if he chose recovery instead of self harm.

maybe on the other side of this window will be what he needs to see to choose that.

but you hang onto your strength and resilience.

for now you need to make these decsisions for him... over coming days you will get advice from his professional carers about when he needs to start making those decisions for himself and owning them again.

That is between you and those professionals to assess. And you sit confident.

best wishes lost.

Meg

Hugs and prayers to you both.

God Bless Both of You

Thank goodness he is awake.

You are showing your strengths thru this Lost. Stand tall.

Sending prayers for you and DTOM.

So sorry about your dog too.

I'm so sorry you and DTOM are going through this. I wish DTOM ( and you) the best in recovering from this OD.

In the decisions you'll be called on to make, remember that there's no sure cure. Whatever you choose colud work great or could fail, so make your best call - and then don't second guess yourself.

Hang in. Trust yourself to do your best - that's all that can be asked of you.

I said a prayer for you and DTOM at church tonight. I hope he recovers with no lasting damage. (((Hugs)))

I said a prayer for you and DTOM at church tonight. I hope he recovers with no lasting damage. (((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry, Lost. Sending positive thoughts to you and DTOM.

What great news, Lost! Things sound promising. He's where he needs to be for now--- and now is stable enough for you to get some rest.

Millions of hugs. You're both in my thoughts & prayers.

Thoughts hugs and strength to you both. So happy he is awake and agitated! Stat strong Lost and do not let anymore rude nurses or the in- laws take your power/place away. Listen carefully to what the docs and psycho suggest and do what you think is best for you both.

How are you today,Lost?

How is DTOM?

Confused -thanks for asking how I am. I'm having a lot of feelings. Still somewhat scared but also angry frustrated tired and tired of feeling scared that dtom is going to die. Tired of his addiction. Tired of worrying.

He is doing much better. Doesn't remember much of tues or yesterday but other than he is ok. He will probably go to psych. Floor but he's trying to fight it. We will see. The psychiatrist may force him. I'm hoping so.

I can't believe I almost had to bury my husband. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed by that thought. I'm acting strong for him but inside I'm crying. I can still remember the night it happened going home at 3am and crying on the bathroom floor begging and praying to God to let him live. He will never feel the pain I felt that night unless he experiences what I did.

I already buried one man I loved. And to bury my husband would be so much worse.

Sometimes I think I'm still in shock over what happened.

Your pain and weariness are palpable, Lost. I am so very sorry.

One minute, one hour, one day at a time. Embrace this next chance at life. I can only hope DTOM will do the same.

These lives we live are so short and so precious. Be patient if you can. Reach out to us for strength when you need to.

((((eternal hugs))))

(((lost)))

I have no words of wisdom. Just take your time in processing this.

Lost. Please take the time to take care of YOU! DTOM will be cared for.

Its ok to go home shower eatand take a time out.

((((Lost)))

You're handling this the best way you can. I'm sorry for the trauma you are going through.

Sorry I just now saw this post. I am glad things look a litte better.

((((lost))))))