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I see red & want to pinch those people really hard.

...no more swordcane suggestions from me... wouldn't need one anyway if you got a hulk pinch.

It feels like we're lab rats for data mining.

Yeah, I avoid those. Last thing I want is for one of my fart analogies to end up on the cover of a magazine.

NTV

Or as an ad for a Gastropub

How does some basement-dwelling fuckwit writing fiction on a help board make a fool of you?

I tend to get personal with my posts. I talk about my experience with my H. Believe it or not, I'm actually quite a private person. I feel very vulnerable when I post that stuff. 🤷‍♀️

[This message edited by cocoplus5nuts at 7:41 PM, February 10th (Monday)]

As a former admin and mod on two popular NFL sites, I can tell you from personal experience that it's an incredible amount of work and is usually done for free. My respect goes out to all the admins, mods, and guides on this site who put in all that time and effort to keep the rest of us safe.

There are people on the internet who are lonely, emotionally broken, mentally ill, and some downright sociopathic. They are the turds in the punch bowl but are in the vast minority. Although it is impossible to keep them out 100% of the time, I refuse to allow them to ruin my journey through infidelity.

I don't post as often as I used to but that's only because I've noticed that if I wait a couple of minutes, some other member will not only post exactly what I was thinking but put it in a much better way.

Thank you Mr. Kite. You definitely understand the role. Your appreciation helps sustain us when we have rough days.

Just had a thought pop into my head...

I wonder if there are "couples" on SI - a BS and WS posting together - who are really one person. These folks get a lot of attention - just what trolls like.

Dun dun dun.....

Lalagirl

Interesting and likely very possible.

Sassy

You need to empty out your messages! Tried to PM you but you're at your limit.

To the trolls ......

Sorry MBB! MangledHeart has had the same frustrations trying to PM me! I’m a bit of a message hoarder. I’ll go see if I can part with a few!

Should be good now MBB!

Thank you Mr. Kite. You definitely understand the role. Your appreciation helps sustain us when we have rough days.

You're most certainly welcome. What you all do here is of utmost importance and in many cases life-changing to multiple individuals caught up in the heartbreak of infidelity.

Sassy

PM'd you. I get it, I'm a message hoarder too. Actually wish we could save more because so many have sent me amazing heartfelt messages.

Ohhh a monkey GIF. How cute. I'm sure that's really going to rattle the cages of the trolls.

I wonder if there are "couples" on SI - a BS and WS posting together - who are really one person. These folks get a lot of attention - just what trolls like.

It has happened, but I would hate for couples who both post to be under any scrutiny as a troll. Without SI, HT and I would not be where we are today. This site has served both of us in ways we can’t explain and can not thank DS and MH enough for. It’s exactly why we both are still active members here a decade later.

I think I posted this on another thread a while ago; oldie but goodie. And explains internet trolls perfectly...

^^^ hilarious 🤣

I wonder if there are "couples" on SI - a BS and WS posting together - who are really one person. These folks get a lot of attention - just what trolls like.

I wish I didn't feel the need to prove that my wife and I are real. If there is some way to become a verified member, I'd be all for it.

Edit: jeez does this post seem troll like?

[This message edited by Neanderthal at 7:41 PM, February 10th (Monday)]

What? Couple trolls???? Uh...

I wish I didn't feel the need to prove that my wife and I are real.

No need. I was not referring to you and your wife; there are many BS/WS couples on this site. I was asking a question that referred to the subject of this thread. Just a thought that I put in writing.

I have been here a very long time and after I healed, I have extended my help to both BSs and WSs freely and happily. I like to pay it forward because SI literally saved my life.

When these recent trolls were discovered, I was in the camp that the OP was in - quite upset and felt pretty foolish for extending my support to them. However, after sitting on my pride for a bit, while it has been disheartening to see so much troll activity (although it's always been there, it seems more prevalent in the past year or two), even if it/they is/are a troll(s), the material posted may help other members.

forgettableDad

Yes I think that nails it!

Neanderthal

No, you don't. I'm not aware of many couples here and honestly find myself envious of those that are because it means the WS cares enough to really find out their whys and work out their issues which I think is great. My WH would never put himself out there like that. Gotta maintain that narcissistic image after all.

When these recent trolls were discovered, I was in the camp that the OP was in - quite upset and felt pretty foolish for extending my support to them. However, after sitting on my pride for a bit, while it has been disheartening to see so much troll activity (although it's always been there, it seems more prevalent in the past year or two), even if it/they is/are a troll(s), the material posted may help other members.

The same thing happened to me! For better or for worse (mostly for worse) my BH and I have had our share of experiences with trolls.

Wait a sec. We’re one of those “couples.” Hmmm. Remember those Rodney Dangerfield beer commercials where he pulled off his mask? “I’m not even MrsWalloped!” *Gasp!* GoldenR?!! (sorry GoldenR )

Anyway, my troll radar is really poor and there are some nice people here who warn me privately about trolls, but I’ve spent time engaging with them and then when I found out they were trolls I felt so stupid and taken advantage of. But more than once I’ve received messages from people who read my posts to those trolls and they told me that my posts helped them. And that’s when I decided I didn’t care about trolls anymore. My posts might be directed at one poster but it’s for everybody to read. It helps me write it out and if it helps someone else understand a WW better or a WW understand herself better, then it’s totally worth it. Besides, I’d totally mess up if I were to try and guess who’s a troll and who’s not. With my luck I’d accuse a mod of being a troll.