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Hurthalo ( member #41782) posted at 3:05 AM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

My WW and I are both Navy Officers. OM is a baby faced poor excuse for an Army officer who is the same rank as us.

My wife was his 9th instance of infidelity in his own marriage. He also proudly screws hookers for fun. He's a real piece of work and I have no idea what my wife saw in him.

Frankly it scares me.

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Lost15 ( member #40898) posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

MOW was a 1st grade teacher for 20 years and a high school softball coach. I say was because she just up and left her job to go be with stbxh. She also left her 4 kids behind.

me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.
Divorced: Jan 27,2015 (Ds 16th BDay)He rem

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FindMyselfAgain ( member #36969) posted at 3:51 AM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

She is nothing more than a broken little girl (20 years old at the time of the affair). The company whore, whose life goal was to die when she's 27...cause, you know, everybody really cool dies at 27. She was a machine operator at a production plant...going from one maintenance tech to the next.

I pity her. What a sad existence...

DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.

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jpumpkin ( member #42148) posted at 4:49 AM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

#1 cow. Damsel in distress type who fed the need of FWS to be the kisa to EVERYONE and lended an ear and her body when we hit a rough patch.

#2 employee who provided him with recreational prescription drugs.

In other words, train wrecks.

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DTERMINED2SURVIV ( member #42294) posted at 3:35 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

A door girl at a nightclub... THAT WAS EA

One worked at a daycare -PA

One worked at mcdonalds lol-PA

One did hair-PA

One was a full time student-PA

One worked at walmart-PA

One was a stripper -pa

One was a bartender-pa

One was a shot girl-pa

(this is all at the same nigthclub)

One was a waitress-pa

One was a teacher-pa

They were all sluts on the side...


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lovehonorcherish ( member #41843) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2014

H's AP was a 41 year old, bottle blonde...nothing to write home about; twice married, twice divorced to the same man; drove a school bus and flipped burgers part time at McDonald's

I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

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crestfallen ( member #27993) posted at 2:11 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

H's AP was a co-worker, 16 years younger than the both of us. She lives at home with her Mommy, still. Not only did she boink my H, she boinked his boss and tried to boink my son years ago when he was 21. He was smart enough to turn her down, but my H wasn't. Go figure!!!

BS-me-59
WH-59
Married 34 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

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chipmunk41 ( member #40694) posted at 2:16 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

OW is self-employed. She owns a cleaning business.

Me: BS
Him: ExH
DD 9-13-13
Divorced 7/9/15

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heartbrokeninaz ( member #40779) posted at 2:18 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

33 year old massage therapist. Never been in a real relationship. Not able to function like a normal person. Everyone in our circle felt sorry for her because she was so dumb. Amazing.

BW 51(me)WH 51DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with whorenado DDay 2 05/09/14 texts to another woman (not returned)Dday 3 06 15/18 texting to meetup with a mutual friend not reciprocated. I live a real life fairy tale.

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NikkiD ( member #38173) posted at 2:19 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

Damsel in distress type who fed the need of FWS to be the kisa to EVERYONE and lended an ear and her body when we hit a rough patch.

ditto

"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

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alifeforesaken ( member #41139) posted at 2:20 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

WH employee. He got promoted, she got promoted to his exec asst. and that's when it started. Unfortunately, that's still the relationship, though WH said he is willing to leave.

BW (31)
WH (32)
Children (1yr) (1 due Mar '14)
DD#1 - 9/28/13 DD#2 11/24/13

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cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 7:35 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

single. marketing dept. 30 yrs old. Daughter of reknowned childrens cancer dr. Grew up in a wealthy home. Did not care for her self supporting. Looking for older man with money. Spends all her time online, copying others creativity to keep her job, and shopping addicton . She got engaged over christmas, and loading up pinterest with all her future purchase ideas. yes, he is older and successful. Its spooky to see him compared to my H. They favor. She has VERY expensive taste.

a trigger yesterday

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 7:39 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

OW 1-3, they all worked in telecom (engineers).

OW 4, I DHAC. Homewrecker works.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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alwaysclass ( new member #42200) posted at 7:55 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

OW#1: college student who worked at Dunkin' Donuts . Guess she fed this cop (XWH) donuts along with his ego kibbles...or maybe she played ring toss

OW#2 LTA skank "hair stylist / colorist" basically hair dresser. 50+ divorcee. . She got divorced because her x cheated on her with an infamous adulteress( who was convicted of shooting her BFs wife in face). Skank's ex was given physical custody of her son. Guess what she told my ex why she didn't have physical custody? She gave it up so he could stay in same school. Of course wouldn't you turn your child over to someone that you accused of beating you? Of course and a family court judge will choose your "batterer" ex over you? Hmmm and my XWH BELIEVED all her sh*t. Oh and did I mention my ex was a cop?!!!! The final aspect of this "Catholic" woman: she taught CCD classes for the 9 years that the affair was going on. Hmmm she needs to study up on those Ten Commandments!

I swear we BSs can't make this up. Time to write a best seller

BS me 51
DWS him 52
Married 23 years
2 DSs 18y & 15y
D day 10-25-2011
Divorce final 10-25-2012...eerie same

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LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 8:15 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

OM#1 - Relative of mine. 10 years older than her. A music minister and a janitor making 10.50 an hour and couldn't afford to do anything on his own.

OM#2 - 28 year old janitor that lives with his Mom.

Nuff Said.

I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...

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huskers ( member #42168) posted at 8:47 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

Whore is person who cut his hair. I noticed it looked like shit couple months back. Would love to ruin her business as she owns the salon.

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64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 8:52 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

OM was a maint. man at her office, OMM was a law school grad with a govt job supervising an office full of women-she was trading up big time w/that one.

time wounds all heels

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bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 8:53 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

Desk clerk at gym, and aspiring "novelist." You can't make this stuff up.

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

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womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 9:00 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

Social climbing (member of a board of an organization for "at risk children") former nightclub VIP room hostess (where she met lots of men who helped her move up in her career such as working as a recruiter for one of those companies that tells you you're paying too much for utilities and also get a fancy executive title at another "startup" company). When all of this shit went down last year, I asked my family member how someone with no college education could get a job with a title like that and they said, "Womaninflux, you KNOW how she got her job!!!"

Naive me…yes…that is still apparently how the world works.

BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

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ruby44 ( member #41135) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014

she works for the same company, OW ran a facility in another state. They apparently met while both we attending a work function. She was married and is now in the process of divorcing. I keep in touch with her husband.

Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.

posts: 277   ·   registered: Oct. 28th, 2013   ·   location: Midwest
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