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nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 12:37 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Klove!!!!
I'm so proud. You had no advanced warning of the topic of this conversation and even in the heat of the moment did not default to either of your worst feared responses!!
You did great. Really.
Sniffles McFucktool
THAT, people, needs to be on the official abbreviations list as SMcF or even McF, for short, the S is implied. Pass and Klove get to collaborate on the official definition pending final approval from Deeply Scared. IMHO, of course!
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Klove (original poster member #42096) posted at 12:39 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I have to say- I have a big smile on my face today. And here is why- it doesn't matter what his motivation is OR if his life isn't as awesome as he claims.
My smile is because I was FINALLY strong enough to say NO. To set a boundary and STICK TO IT!
What a frickin' awesome Friday!! 
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
Klove (original poster member #42096) posted at 12:40 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I like SMcF
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 1:43 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Yaaaaay Friday!
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
Junebug0525 ( member #29142) posted at 1:51 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Mine did the same thing. It's like they EXPECT you to be waiting with open arms after everything they did.
Me: BS
Him: WXH DDay-11/22/2009~ D~ 10/25/10
OWhore: Co-worker (7 years younger)
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." AND THEY DID!!!
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 1:54 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I will be drinking in your honor tonight Klove!! Feels great when you turn a corner doesn't it!
Build on this and keep moving forward!
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 2:17 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Trying to decide how we would pronounce SMcF...
Smick-F
Smickf
Smif (silent c)
Then I started to wonder if one of those would be better for the official list because it would read better in text:
He's acting like such a SMIF! (smif acceptable for those of us too lazy to capitalize?)
Equals
He's acting like such a Sniffles McFucktool!
Idk. I'm kinda likin' SMIF.
Happy Friday, Klove.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 2:32 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
It's like a Snicker Doodle but not as sweet.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
TheAgonyOfIt ( member #39114) posted at 2:58 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Sticking to a NO boundary from our heart, unforced, is empowering as can be
Oh but pleeeeeze. No New Acronyms!! NNA!!! I can't keep up! :)
Me BS 49, ExWS: narcissist! Jekyll Hyde. Left in secret early July, moved states. Left home, job, whole life behind and difficult** adjusting. Dog injured and too much to handle. Supremely bummed out.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 3:00 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
My money is on the OW dumped him.
Mine did the same thing after the 1st OW/D-day. I thought he was crying, begging, etc. because he really realized what he was losing. Instead, I now realize it was because OW dropped him like a hot potato once she found out about me (he portrayed himself as single).
I could kick myself for taking him back after that first affair.
Fuck this guy. You gave him chance after chance. He made his choice. Sorry if fantasyland didn't work out quite like he planned.
I know you'll follow through with this D. Because I promise you, he would do it to you again in a few years.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Klove (original poster member #42096) posted at 3:09 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Btw- SMIF also came to the house this am to drop the boys off and followed me into the kitchen with his giant oogly boogly eyes all filled with tears and just looked at me...
Awkwaaaaardddd!
All I could think about was Sniffles McFucktool and the picture of James Vanderbeek and I literally almost laughed in his face.
I just said "you should go now" and he sniffled off.
They really are all so pathetic, huh?
Thanks everyone for the laughs and support.
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:39 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Smif (silent c)
I do like it when these c's are silent....
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 5:39 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Nice boundary setting. Keep the plug for that Hoover tightly wound up and put away.
I'm sorry SMIF is doing this now. When you think about how awkward it felt not to react to his pain, doesn't it make you wonder how he hurt you all that time without a second thought? It makes me wonder.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 5:43 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
All I could think about was Sniffles McFucktool and the picture of James Vanderbeek and I literally almost laughed in his face.
Who'd've thought that my foul mouth would actually help someone some day? I guess we all have hidden talents.
I LOVE that you said "you should go now". That had to hurt his substantial ego.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 6:43 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
I'm sorry, but Sniffles McFucktool should never be abbreviated.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
hurtyetstrong ( member #38372) posted at 6:49 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Thanks for posting this. You are giving me hope. I am FINALLY taking REAL steps to separate from my spouse (as opposed to my pussyfooted attempt to leave a few months ago) and know that when I finally do file and begin to remove myself from this relationship I it will lead to endless hoovering on his end. I'm praying for my strength to increase so when that day comes I won't cave to the pressure of his 'sincere pleas to change' 
Me: BW (31)
Him: WH (32)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)
multiple PAs
Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (rescheduled :/)
divorce final November 20, 2014
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:06 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Your "You should go now" was the emotional equivalent of unplugging the hoover by wrapping the cord around your hand and giving a good hard yank from the other side of the room.
Klove you are rocking the Bitch Boots.
I love that SMIF waited until he had the boys for his little show. Think that was planned so you had plenty of time to pull yourself together for his warm embrace the next day. I bet it was.
What a tool.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:12 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Ah. I love it, klove!!
Who'da thunk you would ever make it to this point? I'm so proud of you and happy that you did it.
When my wxh had his great epiphany, I had to unwrap his arms from around my waist and walk in the house. The last time I looked, he was lying in the yard crying - he left shortly thereafter.
Seriously, do they all work from the same playbook?
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 7:29 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
he was lying in the yard crying
I wouldn't even know what to do with that. Honestly.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 7:40 PM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
All I could think about was Sniffles McFucktool and the picture of James Vanderbeek and I literally almost laughed in his face.
This is absolutely hilarious!
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
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