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Luna10 ( member #60888) posted at 1:34 AM on Saturday, October 27th, 2018
Oh yes to protecting the AP. I forgot that one. While blame shifting and putting all the blame on the AP is a no no, also saying things like “this has nothing to do with her you should only be angry with me” is a sign (for me) of fake R. So you say something hurtful about the AP and they cannot take it. I remember saying “I’ll tell HR about your affair” and him saying “I’d rather you not, she’s a single mother of two and she needs her job”. How considerate. Only after dday 2 I went “WTF? Why didn’t he say I’d rather you not because we’ll lose my income and it will affect OUR kids?” (Needless to say after dday 2 HR was informed by WH in an attempt to show me he means when he says he’d do anything to save our marriage).
Dday - 27th September 2017
breatheme (original poster member #62715) posted at 5:13 PM on Monday, October 29th, 2018
My XWW was even protecting the AP's wife. "Why are you mad at her?"
"Why are you protecting them?"
Oh, because you were not Reconciling at all.
Breathe Me
D Day March 2016
Divorce September 2018
When they tell you ILYBIANILWY, believe them. Take them at their word. That might be the most truthful thing they are saying.
mblink ( member #52745) posted at 2:40 AM on Tuesday, October 30th, 2018
I wasn’t really involved in a R or a false R. However, her effort to stop the inevitable D was to ask me straight out if I was willing to divorce the best thing that ever happened to me.
mantorok ( member #65439) posted at 5:18 PM on Tuesday, October 30th, 2018
was to ask me straight out if I was willing to divorce the best thing that ever happened to me.
Oh boy...
BH:40
WW:38
DDay: Jul 2018
D in progress
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 4:42 AM on Thursday, November 1st, 2018
What he put me through during the six months after his affair was far more cruel and abusive than the affair itself. How somebody can see another human being in agony and then continue to treat them so horribly is a mystery I will never solve
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M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 1:57 PM on Sunday, November 4th, 2018
My signs were a little different. WH is usually still in bed when I left for work. He would only make his side of the bed. Only stock his brand of coffee. This would fall under being lazy about helping around the house. But treated me great to my face.
WH faked ED when I started confronting him about A with MOW. He never had concerns about my unmet needs. My triggers.etc. Fast forward 3 years. He had been screwing OW #2 and making future plans with me.
He never paid attention/remembered the small details of my health, likes and dislikes
He would not talk about the A. Said it was bc he is nonconfrontanail. AKA as rugsweeping.
Not understanding I can’t trust him.
Pretending we were okay not acknowledging the damage done.
Not being involved with my side of the family.
ETA: WH withdrew sex bc he was angry at me for OBS finding out. If the cheater isn’t sensitive to your sexual needs, disinterested that is a huge flag. He took advantage of my pain and anxiety associated with intimacy caused by his affair.
[This message edited by Emotionalhell at 8:02 AM, November 4th (Sunday)]
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
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