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Zirconia ( new member #71440) posted at 4:40 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
"When I gave you access to all of my emails and social media I thought you would understand that when you found emails or texts where I made fun of your or said something bad about you to him you would realize I was lying to him to make him feel good." Fuck me, the stupid. This reflects poorly on me, I was clearly in love with an idiot.
"It is clear you never loved me, I thought when you found out you would fight to get me back." Seriously damaged line of reasoning. She had an affair because deep down inside she knew if she did have an affair I wouldn't fight to win her back?
I think the worst part of thinking about the things WW said that were comically dense is how I reacted to them. I lost 20 minutes of my life trying to explain that I fought 30 plus years for us. If it wasn't enough then I am done.
Me: 54 BH
Her: 52 WW
D-Day August 1, 2019
Status: undecided, WW wants R, in therapy, reading, trying. I have no interest but no need to rush, think Im still stunned.
inthedarkness ( member #71423) posted at 5:06 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
I never had a girl "friend" before.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 5:10 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
We are in-house separated and I'm in the process of moving out. He just recently told me He has NEVER loved anyone the way he loved me
He could have fooled me 
I don't know what kind of love that is 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Vomitousmass ( member #62687) posted at 5:12 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
WW: I expect you to file for divorce. I don't believe in it.
ME: Speechless
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 5:39 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
My favorite has always been: "I don't kiss her, she kisses me!"
Honorable mention: "Well, I thought about telling you...." before going on a trip to see his son AND his ex, when it was her birthday, but "that was just a coincidence."
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
You don't gaze into my eyes like you use to.
I like to have sex, so if I can go and have sex with other people without having the emotional connection I do with you, well...
You tried to fight someone back in 2001.
I'm not happy anymore and I'm pretty sure you aren't either.
You're not happy.
If you saw I was distant why didn't you do anything about it.
Our daughter needs to cope with her emotions on her own, not with IC.
You made me this way.
How dare you contact the AP? I'm calling the cops for harrassment 😂😂😂😂
You only care about yourself, your selfish, self centered, passive aggressive and an all around horrible person (I'm glad she was able to describe herself)
You only care about yourself.
You're just acting like a good dad because you got our kids in therapy. They don't need it.
Stop spreading lies about me, I'm not a cheater. That's personal.
AP didn't do anything to you, you wrecked our marriage by ignoring the signs that I was unhappy.
Alright I'm done, I can sit here all day and type out what an awful bastard I am 😁 What a disgusting individual I was married to. How I didn't see it before still gets me sometimes. Oh well, onward and upward with my life!
hardtomove ( member #68757) posted at 5:46 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
Crazynotstupid ( new member #71210) posted at 6:21 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
"This is the only thing I've ever done for myself"
"I didn't leave you for her, I'm stupid, not crazy"
"Just because you don't consider her a friend anymore doesn't mean I have to feel the same way"
There's more....
BS attempting Reconciliation
When you look at someone through rose coloured glasses, the red flags just look like flags.
Aftershockgoldfish ( member #59220) posted at 6:31 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
Coco,
She's helping with our M issues
.
I got this one too. 
Me: 30s, BW
Her: 30s, WW (FearfulAvoidance)
Together since 2006
Married since 2013
DDay 1: 11/18/16
Underground until: 03/26/17
Her OEA: 10/16-Late April? 2017
N/C since 06/17
R offered: 10/17
Last piece of new info: 9/26
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 6:32 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
"She laughed at all of my jokes"
"I told her I'm not leaving you"
"I had to keep the affair going to protect you from her"
"You are so much hotter than her - I mean she has wrinkles and folds and all"
"You mean you are considering leaving me over this?"
On DDay3 "I can't believe you were spying on me - I mean I know you had no reason to trust me and all - but I can't believe you were spying on me"
And my favorite - a message AP sent WH on the day I told OBS - "why did she do this to me - she knew I'd lose everything"
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
MamaDragon ( member #63791) posted at 6:47 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
HIM: "You told me to make friends"
ME: "OH so we can fuck our friends? You should have told me sooner!"
HIM: "well I don't want another man to touch you"
ME: "DITTO"
And for fun...the APs argument:
AP: "Can't you just allow us to be friends?"
Me: "Sure, as soon as he moves out of my house and ya'll take the kids every other weekend that you don't have yours...along with the service dog that I'm gonna train to shit in your house"
AP: "WTF is wrong with you?"
ME: "My husband fucked a moronic balding hairless cat...IE you"
BS - 40 something at A time, over 50 now
WS - him, younger than me
Reconciled
Lostheart8 ( member #71607) posted at 7:01 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
“We are just deep special friends and nothing more”. Ok, I don’t get love letters from my deep friends.
“We should be very concerned about the OW marriage. This gossip could ruin her very happy marriage.” Wow...then why get involved w a married woman? Never mind .... don’t be concerned about our relationship going down the toilet. The OW has everything to lose. Oh joy.
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 7:23 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
Upon discover, XWW said:
"We (OM1 and XWW) always said when we got caught we were going to choose our families."
When we decided to separate:
her: "Why do YOU get to stay in the house?"
Me: "Because I'm not the one that cheated."
Her: "You're just trying to punish me."
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 9:16 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
I think the worst part of thinking about the things WW said that were comically dense is how I reacted to them. I lost 20 minutes of my life trying to explain that I fought 30 plus years for us. If it wasn't enough then I am done.
The worst part for me was the realization that I felt dumber every time he opened his mouth because I had actually made the choice to marry this person. His stupidity was fucking with my self-esteem. "OMG no, stop talking...you're making ME look dumb at this point."
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
Evertrying ( member #60644) posted at 9:34 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
When I first found out and told him he had to dump her or we had no chance and it was over. This is what he said:
"But I have never broke up with anyone before".
Are you fucking kidding me? Here, let me call her. I will dump the fucking skank for you.
BS - 55 on dday
WH - 48 on dday
Dday: 9/1/17
Status: Reconciled
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 9:41 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
When I asked Xhole, "Why?"
"I guess I just thought you would be one of those wives that would look the other way..." 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Sadismynewname ( member #63897) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
Oh my doozie was when he said someone, whom he didn’t for sure who, wrote him an email from Vietnam I said please don’t respond. you don’t really know for sure what you might get mixed up with there. He said he ignored that because he read the paper everyday there and he knew there was no crime in Vietnam. He read the paper as he sat in the middle of a Huge prostitution district! Yeah is he an idiot or what?
BetterTimesAhead ( member #70001) posted at 10:43 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
When I asked if there was any physical contact, after refusing to answer for a long time WH finally said
"the answer is no but I have to say yes" WHAT?????
WH also said "I never saw this coming". Are you kidding me?
"I never meant to hurt you". How could having sex with a skank NOT hurt me? Oh right - he also said "I never thought you'd find out."
When telling him what I need him to do to try to move towards R: "You can't win all the time." Ummm, in this case where you cheated - YES I CAN.
There are more but it hurts my brain just thinking about this.
Me: BS - 56 Him: WH - 57 DDAY: 2/22/2019 - Three year EA and PA Filed for D 9/2021 - signed the papers 8/2023 - time to rebuild***************An apology without the action to back it up is just manipulation.
Zamboni ( member #65496) posted at 11:57 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2019
When I found out about the hookers :
“It’s not what you think. They weren’t street walkers. They were college educated.”
OW / his LTA:
“She didn’t mean anything.”
“I didn’t end the affair because I was afraid she would get angry report me to HR.”
“I wish you’d stop obsessing about her. I haven’t thought about her in months.” (He was LYING— the affair had been taken underground.)
Me: BW
Him: WH Serial Cheater / NPD
Multiple affairs
Almost Divorced
Mom1613 ( new member #69917) posted at 2:50 AM on Saturday, October 5th, 2019
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