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You win the internet today @ EllieKMAS…

My username is a whole lot less interesting... drinking tea while searching the internet. Chamomile was my go-to in the early days after discovery, a small balm for raw nerves.

@forgettableDad, PascalCase > camelCase

I'm glad I posted this topic, I've been meaning to for a few days now.

@sisoon, that's a funny origin story. Your name looks exotic, like something out of Star Trek...yet it's such a simple and humble origin

A month ago an email was going around that my department was looking for volunteers to go to Japan to help get a client up to speed with one of our product SDK's (they were going to build an app that interoped with ours). I did think about maybe speaking up, as it would be rather amusing that I would end up going without her, but it's a product I have little familiarity with. So I don't think I was the right fit. Also, I'm not really keen on traveling by myself.

Also, if you ever need to abbreviate me or hikingout as a unit for whatever bizarre reason, can always call us HOSS.

[This message edited by ShatteredSakura at 2:38 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]

Mine comes from an episode of Firefly.

I received a PM once from someone who got it. Just a way to stay anonymous. I love Firefly, and I had never used this handle anywhere else. Now I use it on a few infidelity forums.

Firefly was awesome. I'll never get over it getting cancelled after just one season.

@Chamomile

a small balm for raw nerves.

I figured yours was something like this.

Mine was much more this after dday...

Only with a lot more volume

Oh goodness, I will never be cool enough to be a HOSS so if they are combining our names for some reason I hope you can bring the cool with it, I haven't got it over here.

You're like my spirit animal, Ellie..

A friend of mine nicknamed me coconuts while I was pregnant and living in Hawaii. I started using that as a username, but it's pretty common. I came up with cocoplus5nuts because it incorporates that name and the number of males I have in my family, my H and my 4 boys.

Turned out to not be anonymous enough for this site. The MOW found me.

I picked mine because at the time he was advocating us to "be friends for DS's sake." Through my time on this forum I realized my co-dependent tendencies and my user name is now a reminder that I don't have to smooth the waters and make everyone happy.

Well-behaved; I can do that.

The J is the first letter of my name and the 707 is my area code. I knew my ex wouldn't be searching the internet for infidelity sites because that would mean she would have some sort of self reflection. Can't have that now can we You can pin point me to my area but whatever, I don't care.

I was trying to see past the unbearable pain to a better future. Since I do not know what that future holds, whether it is D or R, the only thing I do know is that it will be better because it will be my choice. And really I don't think things can get any worse.

Chamomile LOL Yeah, I'm a bit of a sassy bitch

I knew my ex wouldn't be searching the internet for infidelity sites because that would mean she would have some sort of self reflection. Can't have that now can we

Boy ain't that the damn truth too? That was a thread really early on when I first got here about someone who's either WS or the AP had found them on here... which is no bueno. But at least I know that's not ever one I have to worry about; my xwh is about as reflective as a tin can!

Great topic, I’m enjoying seeing the origins of everyone’s usernames!

Any TWD fans? I joined SI the day after (spoiler alert) Enid’s (and others) head ended up on a pike. It was a few months after DDay, and I had been barely surviving...the usual things BS’s go through, the trauma, the anxiety, stress, loss of concentration and productivity, unable to eat, dropped below 100 lbs. I was a mess. After that episode aired, I remembered when the character of Enid was introduced, and her habit of inscribing “JSS” everywhere...”Just Survive Somehow”. That’s how I felt...I had to Just Survive Somehow. The numbers are the date of Dday.

Chili because it's the exact opposite of my personality.

I love when these threads come up.

EllieKMAS - I always thought it was Ellie K and the MAS was for "more"...like you're past that crap and you're ready for more out of life.

Weird how your brain interprets things.

I see stolenyears first like a pastry until my brain reads the years part.

Then again cocoplus5nuts goes through my head as cocopuffs so maybe I have a sugar obsession or something.

Forever I thought sisoon was the word for some kind of specialized Old West spittoon.

Nothisfriend - that whole combining consonant thing messes with my semi-literate head sometimes - I saw your name for a long time as "No this, friend." As in someone telling you "No" and you giving them a "No this" back (maybe with a little gesture).

For years I figured Catwoman to either really like cats or be a powerful superhero. So I figure she's a superhero type who really likes dogs.

There's a few usernames I've always wanted to know the origin story behind...hopefully they'll pop on here and let us know.

@forgettableDad, PascalCase > camelCase

heh, but I'm just a local variable in SI so..

as long as we all agree that space > tabs

My name was created out of a desperate need for help...I needed to do more than what I was...and I didn’t know how to ask for the help, or where to begin. Not very creative actually, but it is honest.

I was staring at a PeaceLily next to my desk while trying to figure out a username. 210 refers to my first Dday... which seems kind of silly now since I have an entire year of triggery crap due to his continued wayward behavior, lies and TT... There isn't a month that goes by without a triggery date or season attached to it. Good heavens, I can't even wish my baby brother a Happy Anniversary without wanting to cry because WH was here screwing around with Exgf/AP while I was traveling to spend time with family and see my baby brother get married... sigh... it just sucks..

@forgettableDad, PascalCase > camelCase

heh, but I'm just a local variable in SI so..

as long as we all agree that space > tabs

Honestly, I don't have skin in that game as long as they're consistent. My IDE settings usually have it set to convert anyways.

The real evil of our time though is the "whitesmith" indentation style.

Nooptto.... I had no option but to move forward with life. I was broken. But I knew what I brought to a relationship. She was broken. I had to move on without her. It took time, a long time before I was able to ask out another woman. Over 2 and half years. My outstanding support team of friends and family helped me grow as a person and the husband and father that I would one become.

As low as we feel on DD. We have to answer to ourselves in the end and how do we want to live our lives. I choose to be positive and happy. I will look for the positive in others yet I have my boundaries. Cross them n your gone. Life is too short. I survived infidelity and God willing wont have to again.

Even though I love the beach it was not considered in picking a screen name. SandyShores sadly refers to the foundation of our marriage that was built on sand and turned into a sandy shore over the years of deceit.