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STBX has a major madonna-whore complex, in every way, to the point of being literal...a misogynist.

Thrown into the parental role of mother, I thought it only suiting and ironic. The craptastic ramblings of DashboardMadonna...

Experience and wisdom, along side a serving of mac n cheese....via satellite from the dashboard of a 70s Lincoln Continental, stolen by Cheech and Chong.

Mine is from a breakup song I wrote in my twenties. The line is "the sun will shine again." That of course did not fit. Shortened it to Sunwillshine. When I first joined, I could not get the song I had written years earlier out of my head.

My name refers to the real life obstacle in the road that separated our house from OW's. When I stumbled upon the stream of texting that shattered my personal life, I looked up and out the window I was sitting near and fixated for probably an hour on cars going over that speedbump! To say I was in shock was an understatement. When I found SI and had to think of a name, it's the first thing that came to mind and just seemed to fit. Though I will say, where I am here in Europe there are many Brits and they call them "humps." I guess that could have worked, too!

I love this thread!!

Thank you Ellie. It was meant to be an “in your face” name choice.

I love this thread!!

Same. Really cool to hear people’s thought process and see their creativity.

Mine is how I felt after DDay. Like I was just walloped upside the head with a massive 2x4.

cocoplus5nuts - When I read your explanation for your name, no joke, I literally said to myself “But isn’t that 10?” Oh. Got it.”

Yeah. I’m a 4th grader in disguise.

I looked like Tanner on the Bad News Bears

Chris Barnes (the actor who played Tanner) is my 6th grade teacher's godson. She brought him into class to hang with us one day (this was 1976).

Mine describes Dday and the months that ensued - a horror show of confusion, illusion, and deception.

I used to be a huge pessimist years ago. I met a friend who's the exact opposite and she thought me optimism. When I joined this site, I thought I didn't want anything negative but something that's positive and generic to help in anonymity. I am hopeful my life will turn from worst to best.

Mine is exactly what it sounds like - when I chose it, I was sitting in "our" house, having not a single IRL friend w/in a 4 hour drive, with a very un-remorseful WH who seemed to cycle between rug sweeping, anger, apology, and being gone at work (with the AP). I felt like opening my mouth about how I was feeling to him was like Russian roulette and by the time I first signed up on here, felt like it wasn't worth it most days so I had just shut up and put my head down for the most part. I had burned out talking to the few friends I chose to share this with to the point that I felt bad calling them as I knew them must sigh loudly when I would call, wondering when our friendship would be more than my crying and bitching, and when I would actually ask about them again. I wasn't sure I was actually in false R during that whole year or I'm sure my username would have been something more like Want2StrangleHimDaily or MurderousThoughts

So, when I signed up I was making an active effort to talk to my friends on the phone about things other than how I felt and was trying to just get by at home. My only in-person interactions with people outside of the "how's it going?" 10 minutes of pleasantries exchanged at work every day was with my WH, who felt more often like my enemy than my H.

It was very very very lonely (and admittedly, it still is sometimes, but the light at the end of the tunnel makes it seem much less so). So when I went to pick a username, my loneliness was the most overwhelming feeling at that time. Had it been right after d-day1 instead of almost a year later I'm sure my name would have been something different, but at that time, after lurking on here since pre-d-day1, I desperately wanted to talk to anyone about how I felt because otherwise I felt so very alone every waking minute of my day.

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Cooley Dam which is nowhere near me so i am Cooley to here. Makes no sense.

Phoenix1 - I have admit that I have always thought you were from the Southwest...but not just because of the word Phoenix - but because of your "land of indifference" location...which somehow, in my screwed up mind, always changes to the Land of Enchantment (AKA the state motto of New Mexico) so I have you living somewhere like Tuscon or Santa Fe...in my mind! Haha! So random and so wrong!!!

[This message edited by ThisIsSoLonely at 8:37 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

Nothing dramatic or infidelity related.

Nscale56, nscale is the scale of model train I have (yes I still play with trains) and 56 is the year I was born.

[This message edited by nscale56 at 8:42 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

I have one online handle that I use that is more like a second name for me. I respond to it as truly as if it were my own, and there are some people I know IRL that ONLY know me by that name (I'm sure they're aware of my real name, but they don't use it).

I used to use the handle IncarnationOfWoe elsewhere, but only on a very select few sites. That seemed a little wordy here, so I cut it down to Incarnate. I don't mind if people know who I am or what I say. I've got no shame in my words.

Incarnate works on a number of levels. Being a writer, I tend to use more florid descriptions for mundane things, and that extends to talking about how I feel as well. I am Rage Incarnate, I am Pain Incarnate, I am Emptiness Incarnate, I am Vengeance Incarnate, I am... Incarnate

I am the macrocosm of the human condition incarnate. Inc, for short. Quick, to the point, and unmistakably me.

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I once told OW if she didn't back off, U was coming for her, and I would bring the fire of Hell with me.

Nothing dramatic or infidelity related.

Nscale56, nscale is the scale of model train I have (yes I still play with trains) and 56 is the year I was born.

That's cool! Model making (trains, but also more in general) has always fascinated me. I wish I had the skill/patience for it. Although digital models are a bit less of a blow to your wallet

@Incarnate, yeah my other username is like that. Basically a second name. Partly because of that, and being a programmer, naming things well is important to me. It isn't always easy finding the right name for something!

[This message edited by ShatteredSakura at 1:21 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

When I first joined, I had no idea what to say or do about my situation. I was at a loss for words. I got the spelling from an Iron Maiden song.

I'm typically a Hungarian notation guy, so maybe I should have been strLosferWords? Or maybe hmnLosferWords (for human?).

I'm typically a Hungarian notation guy, so maybe I should have been strLosferWords? Or maybe hmnLosferWords (for human?).

The first codebase (mostly C#) I worked on at my current job had Hungarian notation everywhere. "String strName;" is so painful to read.

Although with Javascript being so popular, and keywords like "var" in C# and "auto" in C++...everything old is new again eh?

[This message edited by ShatteredSakura at 1:52 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]

My brain when coding speak starts

I love that I thread jacked my own thread to talk about coding.

Lol Ellie! That's totally me as well! I've got nothin' when it comes to coding!